What makes you fulfilled in a conversation?

Is it showing others where they were wrong?
Or is it walking with them to show that you both could be right together?

It is the easiest to do the first one. Takes zero effort. Instant dopamine kick.

The second one requires to take off the mask of “I am right” and use that as an opportunity to connect with another human being.

Human beings are wrong most of the time. That includes us as well. Most of the time.

To choose to not prove someone else wrong, is the beginning of being right.

Look around you.
Everyone is walking with some goal, some target, some destination in mind.

Finish your education by 22.
Get a job by 25.
Get married by 27.
Have kids by 30.
Buy a house by 35.
Get that fancy car, that vacation, that watch, that phone, that bank balance, that status, that position, that dream thing, by XX.

And you know what happens because of that?

You are constantly under stress.
Not because you can’t hit the target.

It is because you think you will not hit the target BY THAT TIMELINE.

It is NOT the actual goal that creates stress in our life, it is hitting that goal within that timeline that creates stress.

Start because you want to enter a new world.
Not because you want to escape your current one.

Start because you want to see how far you could go.
Not because you want to show it off to someone else.

Start because you cannot live without thinking of it.
Not because you don’t want to live in your current job.

Start because you know you will be able to manage starting up.
Not because you are unable to manage your current life.

Start because you want to do it.
Not because everyone else is doing it.

We are proceeding for our team quarterly offsite next weekend.

While it is a lot of fun, it is a LOT of hard work for the entire team to plan in advance, so that none of us are working during those 4 days.

This is an example of how we start planning more than one month in advance, so that EVERYONE in the team is synchronized with each other.

Planning your work is hard.
Coordinating with others is harder.
Doing so without disrupting the existing process is hardest. 

Which is what we practise, every single quarter :)

This is a question I ask all my guests on my podcast.

Ritviz, the singer, shared that his learnings of life are most expensive.

Such a brilliant answer!

Your time buys you things more expensive than money.

“What are you most worried about?”
“That I will keep repeating my patterns and won’t put in the work required!”

AW: “And what can you do to break that pattern?”
“Study and not overthink.”

AW: “And do you think you can do that?”
“I’ve been trying for one year and got no real progress…”

You see what happened there?

When the person said, “I am going to study and not overthink,” it did not cost any effort.
And it gave them a sense of hope.

However, that was false.

Because they had been doing it already for a year and nothing had worked.
So why would it, now?

The solution?

Don’t set resolutions, goals, or targets.

Take the smallest step possible – to set habits.
Once something becomes a habit, we dispense the least amount of energy to do the task.

Habits hire us and take us higher.
Targets tame us and often leave us clueless, in the absence of habits.

Time
Family
Experiences
Heated home during winters
Cold home during summers
Education for kids
Facilities for ageing parents

Few of the priceless things money buys.

You are wrong.
You did this wrong.
You said this wrong.
This was not done well.
You are always wrong.

The vicious cycle to what the world says as “wrong” will continue forever. Even when you have done the right thing.

What’s important is not what the world says is wrong.
What’s important is what you know is not wrong. And you stay true to the right.

On my YouTube channel, I usually host a guest a week.

Here are some of the life lessons that I have come across, from some of the wise minds:

Tech Burner: Everything is a lie!
Nikhil Kamath: Rent > Buy
Morgan Housel: Write consistently. And you have a book.
Seth Godin: We need to change systems, in order for systems to change.
Saloni Gaur: You should be your favourite :)

What has been one of your favourite learning so far?

Investing is important.
A huge part of my online teaching is about it.
It secures your future.

However, we can secure our future only when we have solved for unforeseen circumstances.
Which means, having a life and health insurance.
It is only then when you would enjoy your investments.

When your family is secure, is when you can take care of creating a future free of insecurities.