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“Oh, he’s pursuing music after engineering.
Look, she quit her job for creative pursuits.”

Whenever we get out of our comfort zone to pursue what we want, the mind subconsciously starts thinking what others would think.

In doing so, we start neglecting what’s most important: what we really think and want.
The chatter of critics starts taking over the voice of intuition. 

Thinking is powerful. If someone else’s thinking could affect us to such an extent, imagine what our own would do!

The brain could play cool tricks on us.

In order to look smart, it would want to remember things.
Perhaps it doesn’t want to give away power to the notebook.

However, when we note things down, a remarkable thing happens: the brain gets its freedom.

Freedom to think.
Freedom to get bored.
And freedom to wander around for new ideas.

In the pursuit of trying to hold on to remember things, it never knew how powerful it was.

Thus, noting down things is an act of power, not that of a lousy brain.

How will the brain work on growing the wisdom it needs to, if it is busy working on remembering things it doesn’t need to?

One, inspiration for work.

If we wait for inspiration to get work done, we would hardly get it done.

Creativity is, instead, a process.
If we show up and do the work, creativity will show up as well.

Two, inspiration while dealing with life, aka motivational quotes.

People believe they are bookish.
That they don’t work in reality.

Except that they do.

They are the roadmaps and mental models to help us think right.

In their absence, we would be working hard on the same situations over and over again.

Quotes provide a structure.
And perhaps change our lives :)

Don’t wait for inspiration to work. But do the work on your inspiration.

Our friends and family.
Our colleagues.
Our acquaintances on social media. 

We love to keep everyone happy.

If they aren’t happy, that’s because of us.

“I should not have said that.
I am not balancing work and family.
I am responsible for their sadness.”

Except, it’s false. 

No matter how much we “sacrifice” for someone else, happiness is always an inside job.

“Not my type!”
“Oh, this one is just like me!”
“It would be difficult to hang around him.”

The mind is constantly labelling people we meet. 

However beneath the surface, there are no “types” of people.
They are just being themselves. 

What if, instead of putting people into compartments, we saw them for who they are?
Tried listening to their perspective?
Understood their awareness and applied it in our lives?

People aren’t inherently different.
They are simply doorways to learn more about ourselves.

“Waking up early gives me energy.
But my friends are out partying tonight and I do not want to miss the fun.”

“Studying is important.
But this new Netflix series everyone is talking about makes me feel I am missing out.”

“I do not have the money.
But everyone seems to love the new iPhone and I do not want to miss out.”

For everything that we should do, there will always be something that we will miss out on. 

The question then is, what is more important? 

How will we ever enjoy what we have, if what we have is never enough?

We are with friends. Yet we feel bad at the end of the conversation.
They care for us. Yet something doesn’t feel right.
We are there for them through thick and thin. Yet we don’t see them happy when we are.

Too often, we are surrounded by beautiful toxicity in the form of friends.
People who are there for us sometimes, yet make us feel bad every time.
People who are themselves, yet never respect us for who we are.

Settle down in life. Or keep changing professions almost every 5-7 years.
Do what everyone else does. Or do what feels right.
GIve away your sleep for others. Or make it a top priority.

Doing what is uncomfortable always feels uncomfortable at the start.
Because what if we fail? 

There is temporary discomfort in doing the unconventional.
There is a permanent one in living life as a template.

We don’t choose our parents.
Nor can we choose how they conduct themselves as parents.
Or the repercussions of it.

But we do choose what to do to ourselves, once we are aware of what happened.
We can either blame them for our lives.
Or we can choose to heal ourselves.

Both are going to be painful, but choosing pain to heal is a preferable place to be in, than choosing pain to add to existing pain.

A part of growing up is being able to parent ourselves, if we believe we deserved better.

There are important items in our bucket.

Yet we say yes to every offer that comes our way.
Perhaps we’re scared of what they will think of us.

In that process of committing without thought, the urgent gradually takes over the important.

Leaving no room for us to act on what’s important in the long term.

Say no.
Polite no.
I’d rather skip this.

They aren’t rude, they are simply prioritising ourselves before we offer to others. 

That isn’t mean, rather super helpful for the very few commitments we would offer to work upon.

We teach others how to treat us, by how we treat ourselves. – Oprah