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Whom do we call a wise person?

Is it someone who knows everything?
Someone who has strong convincing skills?
Someone who believes in what they say?

A wise person is someone who does what is right, without the intention of convincing others. 

They do not care what people say about them.
They care about the impact they intentionally make. 

They do not work to impress those around.
They do their own thing and let their brand be made from there.

When someone doesn’t feel the need to show they’re wise, they’re truly wise.

Remember the time you did something wrong as a kid?
And instead of lying about it, you decide to own up and tell your parents about it?

However you got scolded, instead of being appreciated for speaking your truth

That becomes your worldview.
That is how you get to understand how the world works.

Are we doing the exact same thing to people around us?

By not appreciating someone for their vulnerability and truth, all we do is cultivate liars.

The first few episodes of the Netflix series are boring.
However, you still keep watching the series. 

Because a friend told you to stay at it because it gets interesting eventually.

What if we treat our goals and our journey the same way?
Keep at them even when they are boring early on — because it gets interesting eventually?

Persistence isn’t a one-day miracle, it’s a conscious choice translated into habit.

You wake up all of a sudden and catch a thief!
He has already filled up his bags with your stuff. 

Would you allow them to carry even a spoon with them? A pen? A small matchstick?
No, right?

Then how is it that someone enters the abode of our happiness, takes it away and we let them?
How is it that people make us unhappy, and we let them?
Why do we give people the permission to decide our happiness?

Our happiness, just like the possessions in our home, is earned by us, is to be protected by us and nurtured by us.

We are both the generators and the guardians of our happiness.

Lots of work on the list?
Several hindrances?
Unable to focus?

Do you also sometimes feel the same way about your work?

No matter how much you try to focus on your important tasks, the hindrance just keeps coming up. It’s almost repeated on an endless loop.

The real task then is the hindrance that comes in your work.

That problem that keeps repeating itself is your task.
The individual that doesn’t help you reach your goal is the one you need to have a conversation with.
The distraction that doesn’t let you focus, is what you have to manage first.

What hinders your task is your task.

In ancient Eastern culture, trees used to be very thick and deeply rooted. It was impossible to cut them.

So, in order to kill them, the villagers used to gather around the trees and call them names. Abused them relentlessly. Kept telling them they didn’t serve any purpose. They were useless. Over a period of a few days, the trees would eventually die.

Sometimes, we end up doing the exact same thing to people

When we bring someone’s morale down, we kill them.
When we tell them they are inadequate and worthless, we kill them.
And most importantly, we kill them when we tell them that they aren’t required.

Eventually, the person dies.

We do not have the power to bring life.
But we do have the power to appreciate that life.

“Was it okay?
Did you like what I said?
Do I look good?
Do you love me?”

Of all the needs that we have, the need for validation always makes us weak.

Waiting for someone else to tell us that we are right.
Asking people to be our cheerleaders, because we can’t be our own.
Basing our identity on the perceptions and stories of others.
What if we started telling ourselves that we are enough?

What if we knew that it’s okay to be a work in progress?

How would things change if we knew from within that we are doing our best, and raising the bar every single day?

Till the time we base our identity on what others think, we will keep getting weaker.
And never discover how strong we truly are within.

When a baby elephant is born, one of its legs is tied to a chain.
It doesn’t have much strength as a baby, so it cannot break it and run away.

Tired of trying over and over again, the baby elephant finally gives up. It has now accepted this chain as the new normal.

Over some time, it grows up to become an adult, fully mature elephant.
A strong elephant capable of breaking away from the chains that have held it all this while.
However, it still doesn’t break that chain.
It still believes: “I have tried and I haven’t succeeded.. What is the point of even trying anymore?”

And that’s our story as well. 

We have become stronger, yet we believe we cannot break past the chain.
We have the power, yet we lack the courage.
We know we can move forward today, yet we decide to live like who we were yesterday.

What if we asked ourselves: “Am I still tied to a chain that I couldn’t break in the past?”

You are one day stronger today.  You have the strength. All you need is courage. To break the chain. Of your mind.

Different career streams to choose from.
Two job offers to pick from.
Deciding whom to build a relationship with.

There are numerous such instances where we face two not so obvious choices to make. And we often find ourselves saying, “I don’t know what to do.”

Do we really not know?

I think mostly we all know what to do. But we crave to know if it’s the right decision. We spend an inordinate time analysing, researching, planning, debating, thinking – in the hope to get to the right decision.

But we won’t ever know if it’s the right decision, until we make the decision.
And this thought paralyses us.

When we say “I don’t know what to do,” what we usually imply is, “I don’t know if the decision I make will work out or not”.

We don’t fear making the decision.
We fear an undesirable outcome.

We all have a definition of who is a poor person. Someone who doesn’t have a lot of money

That’s financial poverty. 

But there is another definition of poverty – mental poverty.

A state where someone is not satisfied with what they have, no matter how much that is.
A state where we fail to recognize that we already have a lot to be grateful for.
A state where one is consistently in need of more, because they never have enough.

Financial poverty is visible to others, mental poverty lies within.
Some people are so poor that all they have is money.