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Parents
Our parents are the people we disagree with the most.
We have differing opinions on the smallest life issues to making big life decisions.
And that’s okay.
Our parents need a different thing from us: Our presence.
When they were our age, they witnessed tremendous hard work, lack of opportunities, and struggle to make ends meet.
Life hasn’t been easy for them.
But we can make it a bit easy, by being there for them – making them talk about their favourite topics (our childhood, their childhood), listening to them, or simply engaging with them.
People we love the most and vice versa need only love from us.
I’ll be happy when…
I’ll be happy when I find my partner.
I’ll be happy when my parents understand me.
I’ll be happy when my efforts are applauded.
I’ll be happy “when”…
When we attach a “when” to happiness, we make it conditional.
Someone else has to take the responsibility to do something that will make us happy.
That’s a huge onus to place on those who aren’t even aware they are carrying a heavy load.
The safer and more convenient option is to own our happiness.
To be able to control our factors and definition of happiness.
To be happy alone.
Happiness in relationships is not contingent.
Happiness is a relationship with ourselves.
When we have that relationship right, we become happier in all other relationships.
Not knowing what to do
“I don’t know what to do with my life.”
We happen to tell this to ourselves early in our lives, especially when we see people younger than us becoming successful YouTubers, rocking on Reels or becoming child prodigies – and our wanderings make us wonder if we will ever “make it” in life.
However, there’s only one kind of people that do not make it, if ever: Those who do not move.
For the rest of us, for those who keep exploring, for those who keep looking, and for those who are never satisfied with settling, we will somehow figure out what to do with our lives.
Success is in exploring, and not setting with your own mindset that doesn’t let us nurture.
Hope isn’t a strategy
We don’t start hoping we’ll get there.
We make strategies.
Plans.
Executing them to the T.
Then comes a huge black swan effect.
At the moment we were waiting for it to get over, another one came in, sweeping away all strategies.
And when all of these do not work, then comes the hope.
Hope that we will make it through this storm, like we’ve done through all of them.
Hope that there exists a light at the end of the tunnel, wherever the end is.
Hope that till we get to the end of the tunnel, we will be the light.
All our strategies didn’t account for what we are going through.
Hope is the only thing we’re left with – fortunately.
Working on something we hate
The trends have pointed out overnight stars.
There are people telling us how to get rich overnight.
And most of all, pop culture shows us ways to get rich quick instead of working at a corporate job.
However, in order to get to where we want to, we have to start at a place we perhaps dislike.
For our work to pay off exponentially, we must give our 100% to the work that isn’t our dream job.
Because at the end, what we do in “our dream job” won’t be any different from the work ethic and habit we cultivated in the work we hated.
Our work changes, we don’t!
When someone tells you to not give your 100% in your work, it works 100% of the time to not listen to them even 1%.
Conversations
When we point a finger at someone else, we are unable to join hands together.
When we think someone else is wrong, we hardly stop to think they could be right in their shoes.
When we confront, it is in accusation mode instead of access mode.
It’s easy to win conversations by gathering all the evidence against someone.
It’s difficult to gather all the reasons why they could be perfectly right.
Instead of winning conversations, having one helps.
Luck and success
When we think about why we got successful, we may call it our hard work, dedication of our parents, and our commitment.
While all that is true, studies have shown time and again that the ones who got successful were because of a huge stroke of luck.
Being at the right place at the right time.
Being picked by the right people.
Born in a country where we can grow.
All of this is something we cannot control.
But has hugely affected where we are.
Yes, we wouldn’t have made it without our hard work.
But we wouldn’t have made it without luck either.
It’s a privilege to be where our success has led us.
And the best thing we could do is help create luck in the lives of others.
A comfort worth seeking
Comfort is a trap.
It’s worth sacrificing – for your happiness and for your growth.
It sadly seduces us into believing that we don’t need to try.
However, one comfort is worth always living with: Comfort in your own company.
The world is designed to tell us to hang around people, be like them, talk like them, and do everything that makes us fit in.
Finding comfort in your own company and growing your relationship with yourself is the only comfort to forever strive for.
Why don’t we measure progress?
Our families celebrated when we started crawling or walking.
Or when we went to college from school.
Perhaps that first job promotion.
We could see we were progressing. So could others.
However, such moments of external visible progress are rare.
And mostly out of our control.
How about the rest of the moments?
What if we measured our daily progress?
Why don’t we do it?
One of the reasons could be our internal craving for maximum progress, that we don’t feel satisfied with 1mm of progress each day.
But it is that 1mm compounded over a period of time that makes the miles shorter.
We may or may not get validation from others.
However, documenting our progress is the sure shot way to internal validation – backed by evidence!
Are we alone? Or maybe not!
We are not alone.
It’s a belief. It may be true.
Someone may be going through the same emotions, same struggles, and same riddles to solve in life.
Or perhaps that belief is false.
Maybe we all are alone.
Our problems since our childhood are different. So are the blessings we have been fortunate to have. So are the struggles we face today.
There are no two same lines. So will none of us end up at the same point.
We are not alone. Or perhaps we are.
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