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You’re wrong….

What do we say when we are disappointed in someone?

“This isn’t what I wanted.”
“Why don’t you work hard?”
“Why didn’t you work longer?”
“Couldn’t you be more diligent?”

Has it worked? Does it work?
I am sure, we all know the answer to it.

Let’s try a different approach.
“I trusted you. You’ve let me down!”

People always know they are wrong.
Pointing that out doesn’t make much of a difference.

But if you let them know how you never expected them to be wrong, they won’t be wrong anymore!

July 7th, 2021|0 Comments

When you spend too much time with someone…

A movie that you fell completely in love with the first time you watched it?
It was Dark Knight for me!
The script, the music, the characters – everything was on point and it blew my mind away!

I loved it so much, that I watched it again. And again. And again!
By the time I was watching it for the 6th or 7th time, I started noticing its flaws.
I had spent so much time with it, that I couldn’t help but notice its slips.
Yet, it remains my all-time favorite movie.

I chose to ignore the slips because what I experienced when I saw the movie was way too wonderful an experience!

What else works like movies?
People!

The more time you spend with people, the more flaws you see!
Instead, why not shift the focus on how you feel when you are with them?

July 6th, 2021|1 Comment

If you’re feeling lost….!

What’s the one thing you would want, if you are lost somewhere?

Most of us will have the same reply.
We’d need a map.

Except, a map would not help because you are lost and you don’t know where you are on the map.

The same is true for life.
When we are lost, we crave for a map.
We crave for directions – a diagram of which road leads to where.
What we don’t realize is, we don’t even know where we are.

What might help?
Retracing our steps!
Going back where we have come from, to a point where we aren’t lost anymore!

Reminding ourselves, what kept us going!
And reminding ourselves, why we started!

Because no matter how lost we are, we always know where we come from.

July 5th, 2021|0 Comments

How do you really learn?

How many college lectures do I remember?
Not many!

If you ask me anything from those classes, how much would I be able to reproduce?
Not much!

It’s because the best learning comes from what happens outside the class.
It comes when no one is teaching. It comes by listening and by observing!

It’s not what they teach you that matters. What matters is, what you learn instead!

July 4th, 2021|0 Comments

What’s the most dangerous statement in the world?

“But I have already spent so much time on this. How can I leave it all?”

This statement when thought out loud ignores everything.
It ignores signals, it ignores intuition, it ignores advice and it ignores the truth.

Think about it.
Does it really matter how much time has gone into it, when you know it isn’t working?
Does it really matter how long you have been doing something when you know it needs to change?

No change has ever happened without realizing that change needs to happen.
But once you realize it, would you really want your past to determine your future?

July 3rd, 2021|0 Comments

Time = Energy

When you say you do not have time, what you are essentially saying is that you do not have the energy.

Physical energy
Do you take care of your body? Do you eat healthily? Do you have a night of quality sleep?

Emotional energy
Do you believe in yourself? Do you talk positively to your own self?

Mental energy
Are you optimistic? Are you feeding your creativity?

Spiritual energy
Are you honest? Do you live a life of integrity and commitment?

One’s desire to manage time is one’s attempt to manage their energy.

July 2nd, 2021|0 Comments

How to take difficult decisions in life?

The best mental model for taking tough decisions in life.

Ask yourself, “What’s the worst thing that can happen?”
Then close your eyes and imagine it happening.

Ask yourself another question, “Will I be okay mentally, socially, financially, physically, emotionally?”
If the answer is yes, go for it!

It’s crazy how much of our time goes towards taking the right decision when no one knows what the right decision is!
Why not spend that time and effort into finding the courage within?

July 1st, 2021|0 Comments

Curiosity over Intimidation

When you meet someone who is successful, who is knowledgeable, who is experienced and seems to look way beyond your reach – the best emotion is to have is curiosity!

Curiosity to learn as much as you can from them!
Curiosity to ask them why they do what they do!
Curiosity to ask them how they have reached where they are!
And the curiosity to ask yourself if that’s something you have or are willing to develop!

Not intimidation, not underconfidence, not nervousness – sheer curiosity!

June 30th, 2021|0 Comments

Why did we change?

We were all born curious.
We asked endless questions, whether to know, to irritate or to engage.

And then, we were told to listen and not to ask.
We were scolded if the questions were dumb.
We were discouraged if the questions were too many.

So we stopped asking “Why?”
“Why am I doing what I’m doing?”
We were all curious until the world killed our curiosity.

If we are curious, we are alive.
If we are not, we are simply a slave to someone else’s curiosity.

June 29th, 2021|0 Comments

“What should I do in life?”

This question can be answered by asking 3 more questions to ourselves:

  1. Who am I?
  2. Who am I likely to become?
  3. Who am I ought to become?

Most likely these 3 individuals are not going to be the same. 

Within the space between who are we likely to become and who are we ought to become, lies the answer to what do we ought to do in life!

 

June 28th, 2021|0 Comments

Investing ain’t just a fashionable advice!

Investing in your 20’s is not just a fashionable advice.

It is also to build a corpus for yourself, so that:

– to take a career break,
– to go on with exploring life for 6-12 months
– or simply creating opportunities when you’re stuck in your job and have responsibilities to cater to.

Investing is not just to make money.
It is also to create freedom for yourself. And that’s priceless

June 27th, 2021|0 Comments

Using pain, instead of it using us

When we feel pain, we can see ourselves getting lost in it.

Not being able to get out of it. Despite being aware that it is not the right feeling, we are unable to nudge it away.

So it consumes us. Makes us feel hollow. And takes away our attention from what’s important.

Pain does not come with degree. It just is.
But if it comes for a shorter duration, is it even pain? Or simply a chance to be more self-aware?

June 26th, 2021|0 Comments

How to build successful relationships?

It starts with trust. Trust forms the basis of every relationship.
It is neither to be broken, nor to be tested.

It continues by listening. Listening, not with the intent of answering but with the intent of understanding.

It grows with patience. The most beautiful relationships in life take time.

Trust, Listen and Wait.
The key ingredients to long-lasting and meaningful relationships.

June 25th, 2021|Comments Off on How to build successful relationships?

For your 20s and beyond

The 3 most important life skills that will help us now and for the rest of our life:

  1. The courage to know what we don’t know.
  2. The courage to accept the truth the way it is.
  3. The courage to take risks.

There’s no expiry on these skills.
Rather, they work on the principle of compounding. 

The more we put the right skills to use, the more they will grow. So will we. :)

 

June 24th, 2021|Comments Off on For your 20s and beyond

Are we managers or leaders?

There is something appealing about being called a manager.
We have more control, more decision-making power, more responsibility.
And we seek this influence.

We seek a bigger team to manage, a bigger area to control, a bigger span of influence.
But do we ever seek more accountability?

Accountability for a bigger goal!
Accountability for a larger purpose!
Accountability for the development of the team!

Managers seek more responsibility. Leaders seek more accountability.

June 23rd, 2021|Comments Off on Are we managers or leaders?

Who are you listening to?

“Oh, you are doing such great work!”
“This is awesome!”
“It’s so good!”

We love positive feedback! All of us do.
It gives us the confidence to keep doing what we are doing.

But if we keep doing what we do, how would we ever grow?
After a point, what really helps us grow is listening to people who do not have positive feedback.
People who chose not to engage.
They will lead us to our next step if only, we choose to listen.

While it is not necessary to accept everything that people say, it is important to listen and be aware of what they have to say!

July 12th, 2021|

Why do we lie?

Remember that one time, when we did something wrong as a kid?
But, we decided to own up to our mistake and tell the truth to our parents?
And we got scolded?

Remember that one time, when we did something wrong as a kid?
But, we decided to tell the truth to our teachers?
And we got scolded?

And remember that one time, when we did something wrong as a kid?
But, we decided to lie to everyone?
And we weren’t scolded!

Are we doing the exact same thing to people around us?

By not appreciating someone for their vulnerability and truth, all we do is cultivate liars.

July 11th, 2021|

Don’t take my advice on this…

We often seek advice when we have multiple options in front of us.
And we are unsure of which option to pick!

There begins our journey of finding the right answer.
We look for people who have taken similar decisions before, hoping that we will get an answer!

However, there’s one thing that we often forget in the process.
Their experiences are not ours.
Their advice will be based on the outcome of their decisions.
Which could be driven by the advice of someone else – that’s even worse!

I would rather follow my gut.
If I will ask myself honestly, I will get the answer –  an answer which would be way better than anyone else’s!

PS: Don’t take my advice on this – build yours :)

July 10th, 2021|

Are you feeling stuck?

I often say consistency is the biggest determinant of success.
And if you measure your progress when you are consistently working towards something, you’ll be able to move forward!

And yet, sometimes we still feel stuck.
We don’t know how to keep going!

Here are the 4 stages that you go through in whatever is it that you start with:

  1. You have to be told what to do.
  2. You know what to do.
  3. You do it.
  4. You do it well.

If you know where you are currently, you’ll know where to go next.
If you’re feeling stuck, which stage is it?

July 9th, 2021|

I wish I would have….

Every time when we think,  “I wish I would have done that differently”, we are thinking about something we can’t change.

What’s done has been done.
No amount of thinking will change that.
No amount of regret will change that.

What we can change is what we do next.
So, here are better questions to ask.

“What stopped me from doing whatever it is that I should have done?”
“Do those things still exist in my life?”

“What was it that I did not know back then?”
“Do I know it now?”

Everyone makes mistakes. But not everyone learns from those mistakes.
Something exists between all the rights and wrongs. And that something is called reflection!

Regret will only keep you in the past. Reflection will bring you out of it.
July 8th, 2021|

You’re wrong….

What do we say when we are disappointed in someone?

“This isn’t what I wanted.”
“Why don’t you work hard?”
“Why didn’t you work longer?”
“Couldn’t you be more diligent?”

Has it worked? Does it work?
I am sure, we all know the answer to it.

Let’s try a different approach.
“I trusted you. You’ve let me down!”

People always know they are wrong.
Pointing that out doesn’t make much of a difference.

But if you let them know how you never expected them to be wrong, they won’t be wrong anymore!

July 7th, 2021|

When you spend too much time with someone…

A movie that you fell completely in love with the first time you watched it?
It was Dark Knight for me!
The script, the music, the characters – everything was on point and it blew my mind away!

I loved it so much, that I watched it again. And again. And again!
By the time I was watching it for the 6th or 7th time, I started noticing its flaws.
I had spent so much time with it, that I couldn’t help but notice its slips.
Yet, it remains my all-time favorite movie.

I chose to ignore the slips because what I experienced when I saw the movie was way too wonderful an experience!

What else works like movies?
People!

The more time you spend with people, the more flaws you see!
Instead, why not shift the focus on how you feel when you are with them?

July 6th, 2021|

If you’re feeling lost….!

What’s the one thing you would want, if you are lost somewhere?

Most of us will have the same reply.
We’d need a map.

Except, a map would not help because you are lost and you don’t know where you are on the map.

The same is true for life.
When we are lost, we crave for a map.
We crave for directions – a diagram of which road leads to where.
What we don’t realize is, we don’t even know where we are.

What might help?
Retracing our steps!
Going back where we have come from, to a point where we aren’t lost anymore!

Reminding ourselves, what kept us going!
And reminding ourselves, why we started!

Because no matter how lost we are, we always know where we come from.

July 5th, 2021|

How do you really learn?

How many college lectures do I remember?
Not many!

If you ask me anything from those classes, how much would I be able to reproduce?
Not much!

It’s because the best learning comes from what happens outside the class.
It comes when no one is teaching. It comes by listening and by observing!

It’s not what they teach you that matters. What matters is, what you learn instead!

July 4th, 2021|

What’s the most dangerous statement in the world?

“But I have already spent so much time on this. How can I leave it all?”

This statement when thought out loud ignores everything.
It ignores signals, it ignores intuition, it ignores advice and it ignores the truth.

Think about it.
Does it really matter how much time has gone into it, when you know it isn’t working?
Does it really matter how long you have been doing something when you know it needs to change?

No change has ever happened without realizing that change needs to happen.
But once you realize it, would you really want your past to determine your future?

July 3rd, 2021|