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Temporary is good

The worst thing that would change your life for the worse forever.
Over time, it isn’t the worst thing. Like every good thing that doesn’t make us excited forever, so do the bad things lose their power over time.

Time is not only a great healer, it also makes you aware of better things.

Everything is temporary. And that’s a wonderful thing to begin.

March 31st, 2021|0 Comments

Are you happy?

A friend is making a million bucks. But they are super sad. They feel trapped and have no time for themselves and the family.
You, on the other hand, just quit your job. Yes, the same one. To pursue your creative freedom. And you are happier than before. With maybe a few lesser bucks.

Money is important. And it does buy happiness. That’s a fact. However, if we are unable to use that money to buy happiness it is making us miserable. On the contrary, if we create happiness and then operate to work, somehow, somewhere, money takes care of itself.

If money brings happiness, so does happiness bring money.
Fortunately, being happy is an advantage no competitor could copy. It’s always a choice.

March 30th, 2021|0 Comments

One of the best things about pandemic

Rewind to a year back. All our plans were cancelled. Office and home came to the same premises. So did studies and play.

While the pandemic was a difficult year for many, it also gave rise to the best teachers. 

Those who were passionate in what they do. Those who understood what the students needed. Those who were willing to do the deep work – daily. Those who were willing to give up their notions in the process of learning. And most importantly – those who were willing to learn in the process of becoming a teacher.

Fast forward to a year after lockdown – we have the best teachers. Not because they were lucky, rather because they chose to learn. And give.

While teaching, the teacher learns the most.
In giving, the giver is always fulfilled.

March 29th, 2021|0 Comments

Leaving signatures through our work

I have done my work.
Just go through it.
And when there are errors, I will correct it.

This is sadly one of the reasons most of us do not end up becoming linchpins. Because instead of thinking over to become indispensable, we end up leaving our work undone and filled with errors. 

When our managers go through our work, instead of trusting it has been done well, they have to re-do it. And also perhaps re-do their definition of how responsible we are.

Our brand is built by what we do. And if we leave our work for others to give a finishing touch to, that is what a brand we are building on.

Our work is our signature. So are our errors.

March 28th, 2021|1 Comment

Trusting in a trust-deficient society

We live in a trust deficient society.
Conditioned not to trust the delivery boy, the vegetable vendor or even the people in our team and our family.
Almost everyone operates like this.

Until one day, you decide to start from the other end: begin with trust.

Trust people for what they say. Trust them with their choices. Trust them to own the problem instead of pointing out. And you are baffled by how beautifully things have turned out to be! Most of the time they will keep your trust. 

However, if they don’t, it always helps to look at the stats of who did keep up to the trust instead of going against it. The numbers would still nudge you to never stop trusting!

If people betray your trust, it always helps to leave people instead of leaving who you are.

March 27th, 2021|0 Comments

Self love is not selfishness

When we were growing up, we were never taught self love.
More than anything else, we were sadly made to feel guilty if we didn’t make others a priority.

This conditioning led to a habit where we have forgotten how to love ourselves.

If only we realized that the best gift we could give others is show them how to love themselves.
It will help them see themselves in the right light. And that’s priceless!

We can love others only if we learn how to express that pious emotion to our own selves.

March 26th, 2021|0 Comments

Disillusioned

I wanted to pursue this course but now it doesn’t make me happy.
But I loved this, so doing anything else won’t make me happy either.

This is a standstill most people arrive at, and they believe it is just that they don’t like it.

While the truth is, that the middle of everything is going to be messy. Things would look stagnant, self doubt will arise and others’ success will generate massive self doubt in you.

What helps in such situations is, having cognizance of daily progress and having a set schedule of habits that help you get there. When goals give up, process and progress protect. It is one of the best addictions humans have had and the addiction that saves so many dreams of humans.

You don’t need to give up on everything that is disillusioned. Having fun with struggling for what you love is equally an art.

March 25th, 2021|0 Comments

The path of resistance

No one has done this before.
You should do what everyone else is doing.
Don’t colour outside the lines.

Ever since we began to understand language, we have been given instructions on what to do! 

Except that we were rarely told why. Because of which it never made sense.

Why not do, what makes sense to us?
Why not live our own path?

It is going to be difficult to resist the world, however, you wouldn’t be a photocopy of what anyone else ought to be. And that’s priceless!

Your life path is yours for a reason: for you to not be a template of anyone else’s.

March 24th, 2021|1 Comment

Eliminating competition

Competition could sometimes get bad.
And suck a lot of our valuable energy.
What we were supposed to expend on ourselves is now going towards bringing others down, even if unconsciously. 

What if we focussed only on our journey?
Even if others were in the same range, what if we put blinders on and never peeped into someone else’s track?

The energy that is going to be saved is phenomenal. What we expend on ourselves will help us even further.

To get to a place of zero competition, it never fails to be you. Because everyone else is already taken!

March 23rd, 2021|0 Comments

Solitude and solutions

Why am I feeling this way?
Why am I sad?
Why am I angry?
What am I perpetually disturbed about?

When we sit and think about the answers to these questions, we get a step closer to knowing our motivations.
The awareness of why we feel what we feel, makes the feeling less necessary, less needed, and over time less effective.
Over time, we know ourselves through our feelings. 

In solitude we find our answers. In tagging along with the world, we are mostly left alone. 

March 22nd, 2021|0 Comments

Choosing struggle

If we choose a path that we resist, we know that we will struggle.
However, even if we choose a path that we love, we will struggle.

Struggle is a constant, needed to promote us to the next level. The question is, is the next level the one that we have chosen?

When struggle is a part of life, why not choose the one that will make us happy?

March 21st, 2021|0 Comments

Calm and passionate

She comes across as a calm kid. Must be lacking passion.

Except, that she has so much of it that she doesn’t need to prove her mettle by being boastful of it.

The greatest achievement in life is having great achievements and not feeling the need to show them. It requires inner strength, self belief and zero need for validation. In other words, it requires us to be calm.

Calmness is fire transformed into action, it is not the lack of it.

March 20th, 2021|0 Comments

Scaling up leadership

When we talk about: “All good things take time”, we mean it for us as individuals.
Love, finances, family, individual success.

Almost every time we miss out on how good leadership is formed: by devoting a lot of time.

As an organisation scales, if it gets easy to manage people, then the leader is almost always doing it wrong. People are not data points, they are human beings that thrive on empathy and being heard.

Thus, a good leader will devote time to people and make it a point to engage with them. Caring doesn’t happen occasionally, it is bred in the culture of the organisation.

Delegation of leadership does not amount to leadership. Good leadership, like all good things, takes time and effort.

March 19th, 2021|Comments Off on Scaling up leadership

At home or at peace?

Maybe you were verbally or physically abused as a kid.
Perhaps you can never be positive because everyone in your family is negative and toxic.
Or maybe fights at home are your daily alarm clocks.

In such cases, you may wonder how to find yourself and your happiness back?
By getting financially independent and moving out of your home.

Home is not where you were born into. Family is not where you were born into.
Home and family are where you belong, where you can be you, where you can be vulnerable and where love and acceptance are staples.

Moving out does not mean you do not love your family. It rather means that you will be able to love them only when you love yourself first.

If being “in the home” doesn’t help, moving out certainly would.

March 18th, 2021|Comments Off on At home or at peace?

Our work and grapevines

In almost every organisation, there are grapevines.
People who think how work should be done, how others are doing it, and how it serves as a platform for them to gossip.

The sad part is, sometimes it affects the people who aren’t a part of that grapevine.
It leads them into believing that their worth is determined by how cool they are to be a part of that group, and not 

Except, that’s false.

Our worth is determined by what we control, our input, that is our work.
What others think is something we can never control.

A great way to level up is to remind yourself what you can control.
Somehow, everything else you cannot control loses its importance.

March 17th, 2021|Comments Off on Our work and grapevines

Focus, and lack of it

Focus – Is something we chose for our own selves. For the life that we have chosen. Our career. Focus makes us accountable. 

But there is another perk of that focus: The right kind of focus leads us to stop focusing on what others are doing wrong, and start looking for where they are going right. 

Owning your game does not allow you to question someone else’s. 

April 5th, 2021|

Not leveraging opportunities?

People are going to screw up.
They are going to lose it.
And the sad part is, they won’t even understand this despite we trying to explain this to them.

Over and over again.

So, we have two options: behave like the world is supposed to, get angry, and tell them where they went wrong. The other one being, to accept that some things never change and the one who needs to change is us.

The second one is a more peaceful and more difficult option. Not because it affects the work, rather because it is now a change in equation we have to make with ourselves. And that causes all the internal chaos.

If we lose our temper because of where others screw up, we still have a long way to go.

The world is going to throw opportunities for us to lose our temper.
The biggest opportunity we have, is to never pick that opportunity.

April 4th, 2021|

“Nothing” is powerful

Of the many lies we were sold as kids (and upon growing up), this one always triumphs:
Something is better than nothing.

Selling a part of your soul is better than your soul making no money.

Except that when we are empty, we feel our truest emotions.
It is in solitude and standing for what we want, that we discover what we would never tolerate.
It is in the side-tracked lines of rat-race with the world that we discover we were not in a race with them in the first place!

And that’s not bad. That’s liberating.

When we are busy with “something”, we never get the nothingness to be lost.
When we are tired of “nothing”, we discover who we truly are.

April 3rd, 2021|

Chasing validation

The cool kid will always have opinions of you.
The boring kid within you will ache to do anything to get their validation.
It is going to be fascinating to leave who you are and be what they are.

Except, that it isn’t success.
If changing yourself could bring you friends, they aren’t friends.
If being someone else could bring you closer to people, it is always a wiser choice to stay alone.

Success is a relationship you have with yourself. If you know who you are and where you are going, you are successful. Period.

April 2nd, 2021|

Leadership in crisis

When you run a company, things will go bad sometimes.
And when they come to the leader – the leader has two choices. 

Either they deliver to people’s expectations and roast them. Or they surprise everyone by being calm and then facing it.

When most people expect the former, the best leaders deliver on the latter.
The best part is, we all are leaders of our respective jobs, thus, when we are calm in the tough moments of our jobs, we are displaying the right leadership skills – irrespective of our title.

Calmness is leadership. Since being calm is a choice, displaying calmness is superpower.

April 1st, 2021|

Temporary is good

The worst thing that would change your life for the worse forever.
Over time, it isn’t the worst thing. Like every good thing that doesn’t make us excited forever, so do the bad things lose their power over time.

Time is not only a great healer, it also makes you aware of better things.

Everything is temporary. And that’s a wonderful thing to begin.

March 31st, 2021|

Are you happy?

A friend is making a million bucks. But they are super sad. They feel trapped and have no time for themselves and the family.
You, on the other hand, just quit your job. Yes, the same one. To pursue your creative freedom. And you are happier than before. With maybe a few lesser bucks.

Money is important. And it does buy happiness. That’s a fact. However, if we are unable to use that money to buy happiness it is making us miserable. On the contrary, if we create happiness and then operate to work, somehow, somewhere, money takes care of itself.

If money brings happiness, so does happiness bring money.
Fortunately, being happy is an advantage no competitor could copy. It’s always a choice.

March 30th, 2021|

One of the best things about pandemic

Rewind to a year back. All our plans were cancelled. Office and home came to the same premises. So did studies and play.

While the pandemic was a difficult year for many, it also gave rise to the best teachers. 

Those who were passionate in what they do. Those who understood what the students needed. Those who were willing to do the deep work – daily. Those who were willing to give up their notions in the process of learning. And most importantly – those who were willing to learn in the process of becoming a teacher.

Fast forward to a year after lockdown – we have the best teachers. Not because they were lucky, rather because they chose to learn. And give.

While teaching, the teacher learns the most.
In giving, the giver is always fulfilled.

March 29th, 2021|

Leaving signatures through our work

I have done my work.
Just go through it.
And when there are errors, I will correct it.

This is sadly one of the reasons most of us do not end up becoming linchpins. Because instead of thinking over to become indispensable, we end up leaving our work undone and filled with errors. 

When our managers go through our work, instead of trusting it has been done well, they have to re-do it. And also perhaps re-do their definition of how responsible we are.

Our brand is built by what we do. And if we leave our work for others to give a finishing touch to, that is what a brand we are building on.

Our work is our signature. So are our errors.

March 28th, 2021|

Trusting in a trust-deficient society

We live in a trust deficient society.
Conditioned not to trust the delivery boy, the vegetable vendor or even the people in our team and our family.
Almost everyone operates like this.

Until one day, you decide to start from the other end: begin with trust.

Trust people for what they say. Trust them with their choices. Trust them to own the problem instead of pointing out. And you are baffled by how beautifully things have turned out to be! Most of the time they will keep your trust. 

However, if they don’t, it always helps to look at the stats of who did keep up to the trust instead of going against it. The numbers would still nudge you to never stop trusting!

If people betray your trust, it always helps to leave people instead of leaving who you are.

March 27th, 2021|