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We live in a trust deficient society.

Conditioned not to trust the delivery boy, the vegetable vendor or even the people in our team and our family.

Almost everyone operates like this.

Until one day, you decide to start from the other end: begin with trust.

Trust people for what they say.
Trust them with their choices.
Trust them to own the problem instead of pointing out.

And you’ll be baffled by how beautifully things have turned out to be!
Most of the time, they will keep your trust.

However, if they don’t, it always helps to look at the stats of who did keep up to the trust instead of going against it.

The numbers would still nudge you to never stop trusting!

If people betray your trust, it always helps to leave people instead of leaving who you are.

1. Our body and mind is all that we have.

2. There is nothing more powerful than knowing you can buy anything but you don’t need it in life.

3. The best friendship is the one you will build with yourself.

You DO NOT need to set up your life before you are 30.

Life is not a scripted game.
Things won’t go as you planned and adding a deadline will not necessarily help.

Take your time.
Explore.

You have time.

Your perception of the past will change as you do.

And if you can change your past, through your perception, you can undo all the chains that have tied you down so far.

Happiness is not about experiencing something new or something exciting.

It is continually experiencing what you already have, in different ways.
And this also means that happiness is rarely about doing more.

Instead, it is about having the time, space and wisdom to appreciate what you already have.

Saving is hard.
Being broke is harder.
Learning about investments is hard.
Suffering from bad investments is harder.

Choose your hard.

We often want to make overnight changes.
But that won’t work.
Because our body and mind resists change.
So we have to trick our body and mind.
By making the change happen slowly.

For example:

You wake up at 8am and want to wake up at 6am instead?
Setting the alarm clock for 6am will work for a few days, until it doesn’t.

Instead:

Set the alarm for 7:50am (10 mins earlier than usual).

Acclimatise your body and mind to this small change.
Will take 2-3 weeks.
Post that, another small change.

Alarm for 7:40am
Repeat.

Then 7:30am.
Repeat.

Over a period of a few months, you would get to a routine of 6am!

Most of us had a childhood of competing with others.
Get more marks than your competitor.
Higher rank.
Go to a better college than them.

These were (and unfortunately still are) the parameters that defined success for us as kids.

Except: Everyone is running their own race.
We aren’t competing against anyone, but us.

Being alone in the race is super powerful, because now we get to focus and win our way. Not someone else’s.

Someone was kind to you for a long time.
Now, all of a sudden they’ve become rude.

This leaves you questioning.
How could they change? Why did they change? Did I do something wrong?
Somehow it has started affecting your self worth in that relationship.

Here’s the truth: People don’t change. They just surface. Depending on their life circumstances or even the situations.

When we accept people for where they are, we don’t do them a favour. We do one to ourselves.

I’ll be happy when I find my partner.
I’ll be happy when my parents understand me.
I’ll be happy when my efforts are applauded.

I’ll be happy “when”…

When we attach a “when” to happiness, we make it conditional. Someone else has to take the responsibility to do something that will make us happy. That’s a huge onus to place on those who aren’t even aware they are carrying a heavy load.

The safer and more convenient option is to own our happiness. To be able to control our factors and definition of happiness. To be happy alone.

Happiness in relationships is not contingent. Happiness is a relationship with ourselves. When we have that relationship right, we become happier in all other relationships.