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We don’t choose our parents.
Nor can we choose how they conduct themselves as parents.
Or the repercussions of it.

But we do choose what to do to ourselves, once we are aware of what happened.
We can either blame them for our lives.
Or we can choose to heal ourselves.

Both are going to be painful, but choosing pain to heal is a preferable place to be in, than choosing pain to add to existing pain.

A part of growing up is being able to parent ourselves, if we believe we deserved better.

There are important items in our bucket.

Yet we say yes to every offer that comes our way.
Perhaps we’re scared of what they will think of us.

In that process of committing without thought, the urgent gradually takes over the important.

Leaving no room for us to act on what’s important in the long term.

Say no.
Polite no.
I’d rather skip this.

They aren’t rude, they are simply prioritising ourselves before we offer to others. 

That isn’t mean, rather super helpful for the very few commitments we would offer to work upon.

We teach others how to treat us, by how we treat ourselves. – Oprah

We want to make our best impression.
Give the most meaningful answers.
And make sure the interviewer is happy after evaluating us.

These are the thoughts that are going on in our mind, before appearing for an important interview. 

However, the interview is not only for us.
It is also for the company, for us to decide whether it is the right fit or not.

Going prepared with our questions and drafting a resume that shows who we are is as important. 

We are going to exchange our time for salary, not our happiness.

A journey in a job is fulfilling only when it is a two-way line, just like any other relationship.

Entrepreneurship is cool.

It’s a great feeling to launch a product that you made from scratch.

But, maybe the entire ecosystem of sales, management, product, etc., overwhelms you.

You love product development but the processes and team building responsibilities don’t excite you as much.

And that’s perfectly okay.

It is perfectly okay to not do what almost everyone else is doing, because you don’t have that inclination.

Such awareness is power.
Because now you know what to act upon and what not to choose willfully. 

In life, you don’t have to become what everyone seems to be becoming.
Getting to such a realization is precious. 

Feeling stuck.
Tried everything.
Don’t know where to look.

It helps asking other people for their opinions.

Not out of pressure of receiving help, rather out of hope of receiving a different point of view.

“What would you do if you were in my place?”
If we ask and just listen, we would not be in the same place.

Perspectives broaden our worldviews.

We may or may not get help, but we’ll think differently.
And that is a good enough start.

Linchpin is a small pin that keeps various parts of a wheel together. 

In our world, we call them humans that are indispensable to an organisation.

While a linchpin does a lot of paddling like the duck, there are some things that they categorically always do: 

Owning the job: No job is small or insignificant. Having the courage to do it and get the team along is what makes them indispensable.

Don’t require follow up: If a linchpin owns a job, they own it completely. We won’t be required to follow up with them, and when they are running late, they will be the first to inform.

Owning outcome versus output: Output is what is required from us. Outcome is the magic we create beyond what is required from us. 

Owning the output is having to do the task; owning the outcome is wanting to do the task. Linchpins sign up for the latter because their work signs for them.

Rewards and accolades alone don’t make linchpins. 

Being a linchpin is a choice — the competition is scarce, and we make that choice each day as who we are.

Almost everything we do requires energy.

Almost everything we want to do and can’t do is because of lack of energy.

Yet so many of us lose the easiest ways to have more energy: Sleeping on time, hydrating a lot, not wasting time watching news.

The causes that directly affect our physical, mental, emotional and spiritual health. 

We don’t need more energy.
We just need not waste it. 

“People don’t understand me.
When will they understand what I want?”

We want people to change. All the time.
Because they are not right.

However, they think the same for us. 

They think they are right.
It is us who needs to change.

Instead of changing either, the knots just intensify.

Changing people is hard.
Beginning with ourselves is harder. 

But more real.
And possible.

We have everything, yet something is missing.
We are successful, yet don’t feel successful.

There are blessings that the world thinks we have, yet those very blessings keep us trapped.

Why do we feel like having nothing despite having everything?
Because we have everything that the world wants and nothing that we truly want.

There is a template that we have been following not knowing that we have a plain page to draft a new route.

We don’t feel empty because of lacking something that the world could give us.
We often feel empty because we lack the awareness of what we want.

The sad news is that the emptiness is within. 

The good news is that the emptiness is within, so it can be taken care of.

People will come and help you.
They will come and support you.
They will come and inspire you. 

But no one’s coming to save you. 

From your own self.
From the lies you tell yourself, the promises you break with yourself, the lack of self awareness.

The choice is yours.