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What if they don’t respond to my cold email?
What if I get rejected in the interview?
What if people laugh at the content I share?

What if they do respond to my cold email?
What if I crack the interview?
What if people give me great feedback on my content?

We can get into the highest state of happiness or create a forever prison for ourselves, just through our imagination.

Focus is something we choose for our own selves.
For the life that we have chosen.
Our career.

Focus makes us accountable.

But there is another perk of that focus: The right kind of focus leads us to stop focusing on what others are doing wrong, and start looking for where they are going right.

Owning your game does not allow you to question someone else’s.

Most of us had a childhood of competing with others.

Get more marks than your competitor.
Higher rank.
Go to a better college than them.

These were (and unfortunately still are) the parameters that defined success for us as kids.

Except: Everyone is running their own race.

We aren’t competing against anyone, but us.

Being alone in the race is super powerful, because now we get to focus and win our way. Not someone else’s.

Of the entire childhood of waiting for summer vacations, having crushes, that little pocket money and having nothing to worry about, what do we reminisce about the most?

That when we were we, we were free.
That when we were authentic, life never brought in anything pathetic.
That when we lived in the now, we hardly wondered about the next "how".

The best thing about childhood was that we didn't have to do anything to be original.

The better thing is, we can still do it.
We just have to take off all that we have acquired.

There is always a reason behind how we feel.
If the reason for that feeling is someone else, why blame ourselves?
It will pass.
If we are the reason, why blame someone else?
It's time to fix it.
The key is to find the source.

Our feelings are self-imposed. If we can create them, we can end them too.

I recall during my first job, unable to understand why things functioned in a certain way, I asked my boss:

“How is it that some people have so much work and some hardly have any work?”

She said, “Good people pay a far higher price for being good, than bad people pay for being bad.”

That has stayed with me forever.

If you are good with your work, you will get more work. You will get more responsibilities. There is a lot more than will be expected from you.
And that is going to be hard.

Being good isn’t easy, however it's worth striving for.
Because being the opposite isn’t worth it.

We’ve all made mistakes.
We still do.
We will continue to.

However, the first mistake rarely brings any harm.

Ignoring the mistake and not learning a lesson from it causes real harm.

Because we’ve wasted a learning opportunity.
Because we might repeat the same mistake again.
Because we have let a life teacher go by without giving us a lesson.

Committing mistakes is not the mistake.
Not learning from them is.

To go for the career of your choice. It’s risky.
To choose your happiness over society’s validation. It’s risky.
To leave the comfort and chart for new territories. It’s risky

Of course it is risky. But isn’t not taking that risk a bigger risk?

Is it simply upon hitting a certain number?
Or perhaps before that?

We grow old when we think the way we see the world is the right one.
When we believe it is our point of view that matters, and it need not be changed.
When we refuse to see another way to live life, because it will challenge our comfort zone.

That is when we truly get old.

We grow old when we refuse to embrace the new.

Strengths are our trump cards.
We already have an edge over them.
They make us start ahead of everyone else.

Weaknesses are our jacks.

We will have to work more than everyone else to even be at par.

Then why is it that people are told to work on their weaknesses and not on their strengths?

Working on our strengths gives us a competitive advantage.
Working on our weaknesses doesn’t offer that; every bit is a struggle.

Strengths increase on the principle of compounding; so do our weaknesses.

Which one would you choose then?