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While you are building your skills, the most important thing to build is your reputation.

Your goal is to make people say "I am not sure if they know how to do it. But I am certain if told to do it, they will definitely figure it out. I trust them."

To go for the career of your choice. It’s risky.
To choose your happiness over society’s validation. It’s risky.
To leave the comfort and chart for new territories. It’s risky

Of course it is risky. But isn’t not taking that risk a bigger risk?

Trends are cool.
Around pop culture, news, sports, fashion, work habits.

They make us feel like we belong - we laugh with them, engage with them, show off with them, follow them.

However, the very nature of trends is that they will vanish.
Very soon.

What stays behind is what really matters - timeless content from time to time.

The best way to not be a trend is to ask what is likely to never change.
And follow that.

An underrated impact of having a routine is self respect.

Think of all the promises you made to yourself and broke.
And what it did subconsciously to your self respect.

And think of all the promises you made and kept.
And how that made you feel you could trust yourself.

The healthiest way to feel validated is to have a routine and deliver on it.

Remember that people judge because they want to feel good about themselves.

It has nothing to do with you.

It is their insecurity.

Chasing worldly success is illusive.
What looks like success to us doesn’t match with others.

Setting our own standards of success, irrespective of the noises, is real success.
Staying true to those standards is getting truly successful.

Everyone has their own metric of success.
The same applies to us as well.

Our friends and family.
Our colleagues.
Our acquaintances on social media.

We love to keep everyone happy.
If they aren’t happy, that’s because of us.

“I should not have said that.
I am not balancing work and family.
I am responsible for their sadness.”

Except, it's false.

No matter how much we “sacrifice” for someone else, happiness is always an inside job.

It’s not hard to get on to a stage and speak.
It’s not hard to open your phone, hit record, and post a reel.
It’s not hard to write a cold email to someone in power.

We feel they are hard things because that is how we have convinced ourselves.

That is how we have convinced ourselves.

The hardest thing in the world is to convince ourselves.
The world will, by default, follow.

Happiness is our nature as kids. If we enjoy something, we are in a state of flow doing it. If we don’t, we’ll cry our hearts out to make sure we don’t do it.

And then, we grow up. Unfortunately. And forget to make our happiness a priority.
We pursue courses that our family wants, marry someone because we’ve been told to, and end up living a life that is totally apart from how we would be happy living it.

In the pursuit of trying to make others happy and giving up our own, we realise we aren’t happy either. So, choosing our happiness is the safest option to ensure not only ours rather everyone else’s happiness.

How do we know if we are happy doing something? By asking two fundamental questions:

a. What about it makes me happy?
b. Am I truly happy doing it?

It turns out, the happiest thing we could do to our happiness is live with it forever. That’s the most difficult yet the easiest thing to sign up for.

How do we operate when no one is watching?
What’s a complete no-no, even if it is an immediate gain for us?
Do we want others to win, or is it just a sole game in a team?

Values aren’t something that we just write and let it be there. Values are who we are, something that we would never compromise on.

When things fall apart and values don’t, it means we are on the right track. More than anything else, we know we are practising them right when others know us through those.

Our values are our foundations. While it is lucrative to work on the building, nothing keeps the building stable if there isn’t a foundation.