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We are starting something new.

A new job.
A new relationship.
Moving to a new city.
And we’re scared. 

We fear that we might fail.
However, what is it that we are really afraid of? 

Failing, or what will people think of us once we fail? 

All of us fail. All of us are scared of it.
But when we introspect and get comfortable with what will make us uncomfortable in the first place, the failure suddenly doesn’t look scary! 

Failure is a probability of an outcome that will occur. We can’t avoid it.
What we can change is how we deal with it by asking ourselves the question: 

What is it that I am afraid of?

In a job, we often ask ourselves such questions: 

What do I want?
Why am I not being given what I was promised?
What is it that I like doing? 

Essentially, we want our needs to be attended to while in a job. 

However, no company does anything for us; whatever they do is largely for their own good.
If it helps you in the process, great! 

How can one find success working in such a setup?
By asking ourselves a question: “What can I do to be successful?” 

Success at work isn’t about our expectations being met.
Success at work is about asking what is needed to be successful.

You hate your job.
But you have a wonderful family life.
And you tell yourself that your life is balanced. 

But is that even possible? 

Can we be a totally different person in our work, from our personal life?
Is it possible to feel fulfilled with family if our work hours are stressed out? 

Humans do not live in different boxes.
Our life, our happiness (and lack of it) is one indivisible whole.

We want to build that product.
Create a community of like-minded people.
Change the way things work. 

But there is a lack of time.
Or we are not sure if the idea will succeed. 

What will people say if we fail?
How will we ever know the result until we do the work? 

Intentions hold power only when they’re backed by actions.
Otherwise, they’re the lies we are hypnotizing ourselves with. 

A year from now you will wish you had started today.

You felt intense pain.
You wanted to escape.
It really hurt. 

And in all that, it was easy to blame circumstances.
Except that circumstances were not to be blamed. 

If circumstances brought us pain, how is it that different people handle their pain differently? 

The hurt that we felt because of the circumstances was because the hurt was always there. Circumstances only brought them to the forefront. 

Circumstances don’t cause pain.
They reveal them.

Here’s a small yet effective three-step formula to learn anything.

Observe: When we see others doing something, our brain creates a picture of it. 

Do: Execution is the mother of motivation. 

Teach: The teacher never forgets. Sharing what you have is the best way to keep it with yourself forever.

Thoughts occur at rattling speed. 

We can’t speak clearly.
We fumble, stammer or ramble. 

Is this what happens when you start presenting your point of view? 

Could be an interview.
An office presentation.
A family gathering. 

Here is what helps to speak effectively:
Writing. 

Because writing is slow.
We cannot write as fast as we think.
So when we write, we find a way to pace our thoughts.
We find a way to get into a rhythm. 

The best way to express your thoughts clearly, is to write your thoughts before you speak.

We want to be accepted for who we are.
To be loved despite our flaws.
To be loved unconditionally by everyone – partners, friends, family. 

But do we offer them unconditional love?
Or does our love come with a bag full of conditions? 

How will we ever receive anything good if we don’t offer it wholeheartedly ourselves? 

The best way to be unconditionally loved is to love unconditionally.

Why do we make kids mug up information?
What is the outcome of this? 

What if we taught them the uniqueness they possess?
That there is sheer joy in being themselves without any pressure.
That there is a brilliant opportunity of creating anything we want. 

That there is power in letting ourselves evolve into whatever we want. 

You started something new.
You were not treated well.
Promises were broken.
And sooner than you knew, you were asked to leave.
For no fault of yours. 

Could happen in a professional relationship.
Could happen even in a personal relationship. 

As difficult as it may seem, start with stopping to blame.
Neither you, nor them. 

Till the time we keep pointing fingers, we won’t get centred.
It would simply compound our misery. 

And when we stop pointing fingers, ask ourselves: “What is this trying to tell me?” What is this situation trying to tell me? What can I know about myself that I didn’t know before? 

The best thing that comes out of a bad experience are great lessons.