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“I want to move on.
Want to forgive them.
However, I don’t want them back in my life.
Is that possible?”

After career advice, this is the most frequently asked question I get.

Most people believe if they forgive someone, it is also permission for them to come back in their lives. 

The two needn’t happen together. It is your choice.
You can forgive someone and still not give them access to your life. 

Forgiving and moving on is important.
So are your boundaries.
And you can have both.

What’s Karma?
It is the concept that we reap what we sow.
Our past determines our present.
What we see today is as a result of what we did in the past.

And that could be a helpless feeling.
I can’t change my past.
So that means, I cannot change what is happening to me.

What if we looked at Karma differently.
What we’ll do today will reflect in our future.

And that’s the power karma gives us.

Karma gives us the biggest power – to do the right karma today.
And change our future.

You do not like your job.
And you want to change it.
But you have spent years doing it.
Won’t all of that go to waste?

That isn’t the right question to ask.
Instead the right question is: “If I don’t make the move I want to make, what about the years ahead that would be wasted?”

The time spent committing a mistake isn’t time wasted.
The realization that it is a mistake stops from getting it wasted ahead.

Unless highly technical, the course you pursue doesn’t make much difference.

What makes all the difference is where you pursue it from.

The people you are surrounded with.
The instructors that train you.
The conversations you have.
The different mindsets you are exposed to.

Where you study is far more important than what you study.

What you pursue matters far less than what pursues you after that.

When are the times that trust is earned?

When we are supposed to show up, and we do?

Or Instead, when there’s tension, uncertainty, ambiguity and we aren’t expected to show up?

Trust is earned when no one trusts us to show up and yet we do.

You’ve been kind to people.
And some have betrayed you.

You’ve been giving 100% of yourself.
And some people have broken your trust.

Should you give up your kindness?
No.
Maybe the only thing to give up is that relationship.

Kindness didn’t cause you pain.
The person did.
Your kindness didn’t backfire.
The relationship did.

Your kindness isn’t the problem.
It is the biggest superpower you have.

We’re struggling hard.
To find the right piece of advice.
To find that one person who will give it to us.

However, we are always giving advice to others.
Telling them what to do.
What not to do.
How to think.

What if we gave that advice to ourselves?
What if we trusted our own advice for the decisions that are most important to us?

The advice that we are looking for, is the advice we already give.

We are caught up in the influencer race. Of more likes, comments and followers.

A hundred thousand. Five hundred thousand. Millions of them.

And we do not think of ourselves as an influencer, until these numbers do not show.
However, we become an influencer not by the number of followers.
Rather, by the potential influence you have on the lives of people.
Even 100 people that follow us.

What if your thoughts could affect a few people’s day positively, each day?

An influencer isn’t defined by their follower count.
They are defined by the lives they touch.

Whom do we call a wise person?

Is it someone who knows everything?
Someone who has strong convincing skills?
Someone who believes in what they say?

A wise person is someone who does what is right, sans the intention of convincing others. 

They do not care what people say about them.
They care about the impact they intentionally make. 

They do not work to impress those around.
They do their own thing and let their brand be made from there.

When someone doesn’t feel the need to show they’re wise, they’re truly wise.

Remember the time you did something wrong, as a kid?
And instead of lying about it, you decide to own it up and tell your parents about it?
However you got scolded, instead of being appreciated for speaking your truth.

And that becomes your worldview.
That is how you get to understand how the world works.

Are we doing the exact same thing with people around us?

By not appreciating someone for their vulnerability and truth, all we do is cultivate liars.