Help is a beautiful thing. It lets the other person know that they are cared for. It helps us feel good for getting out of our own selves and extending a hand to another person.

However, help sometimes does more harm if not done with the right frameworks. Two frameworks are: Do they need my help? Am I stable in my life?

Do people need your help: They may not. Or they may do. If they don’t but you believe they do, a great thing would be to share your experiences. They’ll get a perspective. To pick help or not, becomes their choice.

Am I stable in my life: You may be going through your own fair share of valleys. Going out of your way when you do not know your own way isn’t an act of courage. The best help, in that case, is to help yourself first.

The best help is to get yourself in a position of being able to help.