What do I wish for? 

Guess the biggest reason why managers do not have a regular 1:1 session with their direct reports?  They do not like uncomfortable conversations.  Everything else is an excuse. Disguised as something else. But pointing to the same reason above...

Sharing the threat 

I am the head of the family.  My job is to protect the family from all evil.  To ward them off the bad news.  To make their lives comfortable. And happy. And peaceful.  It is my job to fight the evil. The bad news. The threats  This is the...

Threat!

I get up everyday at 6am to get my son, Vidur, ready for school. He is 5 and loves going to school.  In true Kashmiri style, I slide my hand in his tee and run his back (we call it “fush” in Kashmiri). Then I whisper good morning in his ear. He...

Tomorrow 

Something is broken. Let’s fix the issue. We will analyze ‘the why’ tomorrow  Waking up is hard. Let’s sleep today. Will work out tomorrow  This conversation will be hard. Let me be nice today and give the true feedback tomorrow The...

Discipline 

I smoke only 5 cigs everyday  I drink only on weekends I check my phone during meetings only if it’s really important  I clear all my emails by the weekend I eat desserts only on weekends I leave work everyday at 6pm Here is what discipline is...

Front row

The Front row for a live event is always more engaged  They cheer They applaud They emote They reflect what you want them to Question then is,  how many of such front rows do you have?  What’s being heard by the back row? How many of the back row...