Dealing with haters on social media

When we are real and vulnerable on social media, we are inevitably going to face haters.And they might end up saying things that affect us.. Whenever that happens, here’s a question to ask ourselves: “Would we go to them for their advice when we need it?” If we...

Does what you’re doing feel shameful?

A kid is told “no” 400 times a day while growing up.   So as we morph into adults, that behavior gets reflected in everything that we do. It results in “no” being our default response to everything. This has never been done.Are you crazy?What’s going on in...

Is it okay to fire your friends?

Our energy gets drained.Enthusiasm lowers each time.There is no feeling of being cared for. These are the experiences we have with some of our friends.  However, we were not born into those relationships. We chose them.Since we chose them, we can also choose to...

What’s more valuable than IQ and EQ?

More than two decades back, the society revered the ones with high IQ. Over time, it began giving higher importance to mastering our emotions, and understanding them in others.  So EQ became the in-thing. However, there is a third important thing beyond both of...

Using the hurt to grow

How do we respond when we are hurt?Do we blame the person who did that to us?Or carry the baggage of that hurt forever? Here’s a simple question to ask:“What is this trying to tell me?”  We’d probably get nowhere getting to the root cause of hurt.However,...

What if we achieve our goals?

We work really hard.Give up on all pleasures.Sacrifice valuable family time. All in order to get to our goals.  Unfortunately, sometimes we are not able to make it.Our dreams are shattered.So does our hope go for a toss. And sometimes, we do achieve our goals.Of...