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A lot of managers make the classic mistake of letting their empathy for their team ruin their team’s performance.

Which means, if a team member is not delivering quality work, delivering it with delay, or is not behaving in a manner that is in alignment with the core team values, but because the leader has empathy for the team mate, they hold back that feedback.

Unmindful of the fact, that holding back feedback also means holding back their growth.

If you want someone to grow, you will have to have the courage to tell them the uncomfortable truth.
They might not hug you back immediately. But they will thank you back, eventually.

When the market is going bearish, the biggest fear people have is that the past and the present money they have made is going to the ruins in the future.

When we face a relationship turmoil, we fear our trust of the past and the present going to ashes, with a fear of bleak future.

When we are not performing well in a job, we think our past reputation and present actions are of no use, with zero hopes of a stronger career ahead.

Whenever we fear something, we fear not only loss of the future, but also the past and the present.
Thus, the fear is a construct of walking to the future with emptiness.
And that drains us.

A good way to deal with that future would be to have more objective conversations with yourself, if what you are believing is actually true. A lot of the times we are healed through conversations with a therapist, however, if we do not have the right conversations with ourselves, we might have to land to a therapist for the clutter we carry.

Fear is real. So are your conversations of how you deal with it.
Choosing wisely is the distance between who you could be, and who you couldn’t, because of fear.

I recently shared a post about life lessons for 20s – something that I share quite often.

A reader asked: How about those in their 30s?

For me, I still use them at 40!

Life lessons remains the same. The way we perceive them, changes. And we get deeper at the same lessons :)

The reason we procrastinate is because we think we have time.

Let me explain:

Let’s say you have a college assignment to submit a week later.
And your default is to start working on the deadlines.
Because of which, the quality of your work suffers.
So does your sleep cycle and your productivity.

Thus, when we think we have time, we are essentially putting the onus of letting the last moment overcome the progress of small wins. Which ultimately makes us lose.

Seneca says, it is not much about what you bear, rather how you bear it.

It is not much about what is it you have to work on, rather how you work on it systematically.

We often talk about a team building trust with their leader, however, that is a direct reflection of how a leader builds trust.

Here’s how:

• By knowing that they don’t speak ill of any member in the team.
• By making sure to be there for the team members when they need them.
• By being honest in what they do and who they are.
• By not being a superman, and showing when they are figuring life out.
• By being someone who respects people for who they are and where they are coming from, instead of imposing their own choices and beliefs.

A leader builds trust by not considering them as a head, rather a part of the team.

1. Setting distraction time – it distracts me away from distractions, when I am working.
2. Saying no. A lot. Because I want to sleep on time.
3. I meditate. Because I know who I am, it lets me let go of what isn’t serving me.

To let distractions come in, is a choice. A choice, that we get to make all of the time.

If you don’t want to pay taxes, do not make any money at all.

No money, no taxes :)

The idea is not to run away from taxes. The idea is to get rich and pay taxes.

Because, you can cut back only so much on expenses. But if you surround yourself with the right people and do the right things, you can make a way bigger amount of money.

Human brain knows so little.
It is a powerhouse that can learn and understand so much.
Yet most people continue having the same 99% thoughts that they had yesterday.

How to have better thoughts?
By reading books.
They help you peep into the world of someone else without living their life! What could be a better life than this?

Yet we choose to look into the Insta stories of someone and feel worse!!

Books are cool, because they save you from being a fool!

When you are in the content creation game, numbers are sometimes up, and sometimes down.

What do you do when they are down?

• Look at the past data, when they were up; and draw conclusions from that.
• Look at what is working for those whose numbers are up.

In other words, draw inspiration from:

a. History
b. History being created by others right now

To figure out how to get better in the future, it always helps to lean on history. That is the law of history.

To not force yourself to making big leaps. Start small

To not compare your journey to someone else’s. Only you know your body and its pace of adaption to life.

To have a schedule. There is no difference between waking up early and not having a schedule, and not waking up early.

Most importantly, to sleep on time.

What seems like a mammoth task, is only a task of getting the basics right.