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Ravi and Snehesh are cofounders of nearbuy.com, the startup I was running until 2019. We make it a point to meet every 2 months or so.

Some time back when we met, it was for a special occasion.
Snehesh was moving to Bangalore and it was a farewell dinner.

And it was a special one.
We spoke about our growing kids, our current lives and also our childhood.
And a story that Snehesh shared, stayed with me. Which I wanted to share with you.

?Snehesh grew up in a small town in Bihar.
His dad ran a school there.
Like many of us, growing up was tough. Little money. Tough world.

As Snehesh was growing up, he was encouraged to take on responsibilities.

One such responsibility, one fine month, was to take care of the household expenses for that month.

Snehesh was thrilled.

This was like the “big boy” feeling.

He went berserk that month.
Spent without budget. Spent lavishly.
And not surprisingly, the month was not yet over, but the money was.

Money getting over back then meant money getting over. Not anything else.

Scared, he went to his father, admitting his mistake and terrified of what would happen.

Back then (and I am sure even now), money used to be lying around somewhere, hidden in some corner.

Some utensil.
Some pocket.
Some book.

Somewhere.

They started looking.
Every corner possible.

They found a 10 rupee note. A 50 rupee note. A 20 rupee note.

Hidden somewhere, to be discovered today.

Slowly, after a day’s search, they got some 100-200 rupees, which his father convinced him was enough to run the house until the end of the month.

Before, money for the next month would come from the fees of the school kids.

As Snehesh was narrating this, I would see him get emotional.
He lost his dad recently.

And he was very close to him.

His dad was his rock.

“After that incident my father told me to never forget this. No matter how hard the time is, no matter how stuck you feel, no matter how difficult it is, remember there is always a corner that can help you. There is always a corner that will get you out.

Just keep looking for those corners.”

And that is what I wish for all of you to realise.
There is a corner that will get you out of whatever is it that you are going through.

Just keep looking for those corners.

Your HR organised a motivational talk.
The algorithm threw an inspirational talk.
You accidentally heard someone speak of a life-changing book

And that person, that video, that book worked for you.

It left you inspired, left you with more energy than before.

But what if your HR hadn’t organised that talk, the algorithm hadn’t surfaced that video, that book didn’t come to your notice?

How would you have been left inspired then?
Are you leaving inspiration to chance? To luck?

Here’s the truth, for everyone wanting to be inspired:

Do something EVERY DAY that leaves you inspired.
Read, write, dance, play, run, act, code, teach, learn.
Whatever. 

DO NOT leave inspiration to chance.
Inspiration is a choice. 

These three words can lead to massive success in your career:

TAKE COMPLETE OWNERSHIP.

What does it mean?

– Focusing on the outcome of your work and not just the output.
“What is my work going to achieve?”
– Doing your work in a way that no one needs to ever follow-up on you
– Taking full responsibility for your actions – success and failure both.

What happens when you do this?

– Your confidence in yourself rises

– Builds your manager’s trust in you

– You are positively unpredictable in your work, making you indispensable.

– You live with an entrepreneurial mindset while working at a job. And that’s precious!

“So what if this is not my job? It is someone’s job and if I am aware of it, I will either help them do it, or I will do it myself. Because I can.”

This mindset is what the best people I have worked with always have in common. 

Not something that money can buy.

A meaningful job is the one where you find joy in your work, and people need that work.

A meaningful job is the one where you look forward to your work every day.

A meaningful job is the one where you truly truly find meaning, no matter how meaningless it appears to the rest of the world.

A meaningful job need not be the one that consumes your entire life, but for the part of life it consumes, it makes the rest parts also come alive.

Something that makes us believe we deserve to be where you are.

The easiest way to fail in life.

The easiest way to allow success to stop coming.

The easiest way to stop growing.

When you think you deserve better, you end up deserving lesser. Period.

1. Knowing when to say no and how to say it.
2. Knowing where to invest your money and doing it, every month.
3. Knowing that the only failure is failure to meet your own expectations.

Life skills make our break our life, in so many ways. Our work is not to put them as an option. Rather to live life, and be smarter and them.

Can you hear that voice?
It’s not mine. It’s yours.

The voice from your insides.
The voice that speaks volumes even in silences.
The voice that tries to tell us what’s wrong and what’s right, always.
The voice that tells us instinctively if a person, job, or college is good or not.
It tells us if our decisions are right or not.

But we suppress that voice.
We’re listening to someone else.
We believe someone else would know the best for us.
But the truth is- this voice knows best.

It knows everything.
Who we are.
What we want.
Our strengths and weaknesses.
Our secrets.

It knows everything.

Don’t let the deafening noises from the outside stop this inner voice of yours.
This voice is the right voice, the true one.

We are defined by the company we keep.

Interesting company = we become interesting.
Boring company = that boredom eventually rubs off on us.

That said, if you are with yourself and you are lonely, are you in bad company?

If not, why are you lonely, shouldn’t you be happy to be in the company of your best friend?

It turns out, we humans are our own best friends.
And we create the constructs that eventually create us.
What if we created a construct that allowed us to enjoy solitude in our own company?

You are your all-time company. How you make it, is how it will make you.

Embracing failure is not the end.
It is the start.

Making a mistake is not the end.
It is the start.

Changing careers is not the end.
It is the start.

Starting a new hobby is not the end.
It is the start.

Moving to a new city is not the end.
It is the start.

Letting go is not the end.
It is the start!

If we were to look clearly, every end is a beginning in so many ways.
If only we were to look clearly through what it really is, and not what we think about it right now.

Don’t make this mistake in your job!

Whenever your manager tries to show you a way to do things, do not mistake it as an imposition from their side.

Don’t think they are not giving you the autonomy that you need or they are stifling your independent thinking. Because they are not.

However, it is their job to show you how things work, or how they could work better, should you do this way.

Do not fail to see the difference between guidance and prescription.

How you end up doing your work, is your choice.
How you respond when shown a better way of doing your work, is your character.