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In Abilene Paradox, a group decides to do something that no one in the group wants to do because everyone mistakenly assumes they’re the only ones who object to the idea and don’t want to rock the boat by speaking up.

Strange how much of our life is driven by simply fitting in.

Not speaking up is wise, if it is just to speak.
However, it isn’t wise not to voice our concerns, if only we wonder what others would think.

Sometimes, speaking up helps someone else as well, along with your own voice being heard.

Isn’t that precious?

The worst thing that would change your life forever isn’t the worst thing.

Like every good thing that doesn’t make us excited forever, so do the bad things lose their power over time.

Time is not only a great healer, it also makes you aware of better things.

Everything is temporary.
And that’s a wonderful thing to begin with.

The cool kid will always have opinions of you.
The boring kid within you will ache to do anything to get their validation.
It is going to be fascinating to leave who you are and be what they are.

Except, that isn’t success.
If changing yourself could bring you friends, they aren’t friends.
If being someone else could bring you closer to people, it is always a wiser choice to stay alone.

Success is a relationship you have with yourself.
If you know who you are and where you are going, you are successful.

Focus is something we choose for our own selves. For the life that we have chosen. Our career. Focus makes us accountable.

But there is another perk of that focus: The right kind of focus leads us to stop focusing on what others are doing wrong, and start looking for where they are going right.

Owning your game does not allow you to question someone else’s.

We live in a trust deficient society.

Conditioned not to trust the delivery boy, the vegetable vendor or even the people in our team and our family.

Almost everyone operates like this.

Until one day, you decide to start from the other end: begin with trust.

Trust people for what they say.
Trust them with their choices.
Trust them to own the problem instead of pointing out.

And you’ll be baffled by how beautifully things have turned out to be!
Most of the time, they will keep your trust.

However, if they don’t, it always helps to look at the stats of who did keep up to the trust instead of going against it.

The numbers would still nudge you to never stop trusting!

If people betray your trust, it always helps to leave people instead of leaving who you are.

1. Our body and mind is all that we have.

2. There is nothing more powerful than knowing you can buy anything but you don’t need it in life.

3. The best friendship is the one you will build with yourself.

You DO NOT need to set up your life before you are 30.

Life is not a scripted game.
Things won’t go as you planned and adding a deadline will not necessarily help.

Take your time.
Explore.

You have time.

Your perception of the past will change as you do.

And if you can change your past, through your perception, you can undo all the chains that have tied you down so far.

Happiness is not about experiencing something new or something exciting.

It is continually experiencing what you already have, in different ways.
And this also means that happiness is rarely about doing more.

Instead, it is about having the time, space and wisdom to appreciate what you already have.

Saving is hard.
Being broke is harder.
Learning about investments is hard.
Suffering from bad investments is harder.

Choose your hard.