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Feeling stuck.
Tried everything.
Don’t know where to look.

It helps asking other people for their opinions.

Not out of pressure of receiving help, rather out of hope of receiving a different point of view.

“What would you do if you were in my place?”
If we ask and just listen, we would not be in the same place.

Perspectives broaden our worldviews.

We may or may not get help, but we’ll think differently.
And that is a good enough start.

Linchpin is a small pin that keeps various parts of a wheel together. 

In our world, we call them humans that are indispensable to an organisation.

While a linchpin does a lot of paddling like the duck, there are some things that they categorically always do: 

Owning the job: No job is small or insignificant. Having the courage to do it and get the team along is what makes them indispensable.

Don’t require follow up: If a linchpin owns a job, they own it completely. We won’t be required to follow up with them, and when they are running late, they will be the first to inform.

Owning outcome versus output: Output is what is required from us. Outcome is the magic we create beyond what is required from us. 

Owning the output is having to do the task; owning the outcome is wanting to do the task. Linchpins sign up for the latter because their work signs for them.

Rewards and accolades alone don’t make linchpins. 

Being a linchpin is a choice — the competition is scarce, and we make that choice each day as who we are.

Almost everything we do requires energy.

Almost everything we want to do and can’t do is because of lack of energy.

Yet so many of us lose the easiest ways to have more energy: Sleeping on time, hydrating a lot, not wasting time watching news.

The causes that directly affect our physical, mental, emotional and spiritual health. 

We don’t need more energy.
We just need not waste it. 

“People don’t understand me.
When will they understand what I want?”

We want people to change. All the time.
Because they are not right.

However, they think the same for us. 

They think they are right.
It is us who needs to change.

Instead of changing either, the knots just intensify.

Changing people is hard.
Beginning with ourselves is harder. 

But more real.
And possible.

We have everything, yet something is missing.
We are successful, yet don’t feel successful.

There are blessings that the world thinks we have, yet those very blessings keep us trapped.

Why do we feel like having nothing despite having everything?
Because we have everything that the world wants and nothing that we truly want.

There is a template that we have been following not knowing that we have a plain page to draft a new route.

We don’t feel empty because of lacking something that the world could give us.
We often feel empty because we lack the awareness of what we want.

The sad news is that the emptiness is within. 

The good news is that the emptiness is within, so it can be taken care of.

People will come and help you.
They will come and support you.
They will come and inspire you. 

But no one’s coming to save you. 

From your own self.
From the lies you tell yourself, the promises you break with yourself, the lack of self awareness.

The choice is yours.

I love the fact that I have a routine, and I would recommend everyone to have one as well.
Because it ensures you attend to yourself, before you attend to the world.

Here is my weekend routine:

6.30-6.45am: Sip a glass of water.

6.45-7.15am: Meditate

7.15-7.45am: Reading

7.45-8am: Do epic shit :))

8am-8.45am: Gym

8.45-9am: Newspaper

9-9.30am: Get ready

9.30-10am: Breakfast

10am-12.30pm: Work day

This usually comprises checking emails, prepping for my Monday shoot (I shoot all my videos on Monday), thinking time etc.

12.30-1.30pm: Time waste schedule :)

1.30-2.30pm: Lunch

2.30-5.30pm: This is when we either watch a movie (happens maybe once/twice a month) or we go out for some errands (my wife and I LOVE shopping haha!)

5.30-6.30pm: Check emails

6.30-7pm: Dinner

7-8pm: Park with family

8pm: Get ready for bed

8.30pm: Put kids to bed

9pm: Read

9.30pm: Sleep

So basically, a LOT of chilling and unwinding with only half a day of work.

On Sunday, the same routine follows, except in the morning Ruchi and I usually go for a heritage or nature walk. 

Delhi has a LOT of places to visit and has a rich history and we both love walk tours with experts.

These walks usually start at 7am (so we have to leave home by 6am) and end by 9.30/10am, so we are back home by 11am.

So – getting ready, breakfast, newspaper, etc. are all pushed to the first half of the day (by 12.30pm), after which the day looks very close to how a Saturday looks like.

Happy weekend, lovelies :) 

Growing up, the 4-letter word in our world was f**k.

Today it is FOMO.
The Fear Of Missing Out.

Missing out on the things our friends are doing.
Missing out on the experiences others are sharing.

There are just too many choices to choose from.
Because of social media, we have the ENTIRE WORLD telling us what they are up to.
And what we could potentially be doing.

It was some years back that Ravi, my nearbuy co-founder, introduced me to JOMO.
The Joy Of Missing Out.

When you miss out on something, you still have something else with you.

That moment.
That precise moment, which is yours.
Nobody else’s.

At that moment, when you see the picture of your friend enjoying, close your eyes and breathe in what you have.

Let go of what your friend might be going through.
Which most likely is also FOMO, from their other friend.

Remind yourself of this very moment you have with yourself.

As Naina from Yeh Jawaani Hai Deewani said:

“Life mein jitna bhi try karo, kuch na kuch toh chootega hi. Isliye yahin, isi pal ka mazza lete hain.”

Everyone is walking with some goal, some target, and some destination in mind.

Finish your education by 22.
Get a job by 25.
Get married by 27.
Have kids by 30.
Buy a house by 35.
Get that fancy car, that vacation, that watch, that phone, that bank balance, that status, that position, that dream thing, by XX.

Every goal, target, or destination has a timeline set by us.
And you know what happens because of that?

You are constantly under stress.

Not because you can’t hit the target.
It is because you think you will not hit the target BY THAT TIMELINE.

The happiest folks are the ones who have goals, targets, and who work towards a destination BUT without a timeline.

Free yourself.
Make some mistakes.
Give yourself time to recover.
Give yourself a life to live :)

If you feel low on energy throughout the day, this is for you.

Sleeping well is perhaps the single biggest determinant of physical and mental energy.
You should aim to get at least 7-8 hours of sleep everyday.

I sleep at 9:30pm everyday and sleep for 7 hours.
And then try to sleep for another hour during the afternoon.

It is ridiculous how easy it is to gain that energy and how many of us still waste this natural cure to so many problems!