Respect is the invisible salary we work for.

You can be in a corporate job paying you truckloads of money, however, if you are treated badly, abused verbally or tactically, or there is no respect for who you are and your time, the amount of money will never feel enough.
You will often find yourself saying, “I am not paid enough to deserve all of this.”

The best companies respect you for everything you bring to table, even when they push you to be a better version of yourself.

You can create a growth culture without disrespect. 100%!

I am a game builder and I have created a whole new game for you.

Here is how it works.

Each time you play, there is a 90% chance that you will lose!

Yeah, you heard that right – 90% chance that you will lose.

BUT – the amount that you lose is capped.

YOU WILL NEVER lose more than a certain amount, which is known to you already.

No matter how much you bet, the loss is always up to a maximum loss. Never beyond that.

10% of the times that you play this game, you can win.

And when you win, you can win BIG. There is no upper limit. You can win infinitely. More than you ever needed in life.

In short, 90% of the time you lose with a maximum loss (you will not lose beyond that), and 10% you win with no maximum gain (you can win any amount – no upper cap).

Here is my question for you.

?How many times will you play this game?

Why is the answer not infinite number of times? Why, my friend?

Clearing the exam is not the end.
It is the start. 

Getting the degree is not the end.

It is the start.

Clearing the interview is not the end.

It is the start.

Entering a relationship is not the end.

It is the start.

Raising funds is not the end.

It is the start.

Your goal is not the end.

It is the start!

Enjoy that journey. It is the journey you will remember the most :)))

An underrated career hack to win at your work:

Consider doing things that most people won’t do.

RESIST THE OBVIOUS.

Here is what it means:

When faced with choices to make at work, ask yourself,

“What would most people do in this situation?”

That path will lead to a predictable outcome.
A path where the results are largely defined, explained and will NOT be vastly different from everyone else’s. 

If you care about getting different results, ask another question.
“What is possible to do, maybe tough or hard, which is why most people will not do it?”
And then consider those options. 

Because the non-obvious paths could potentially lead to extraordinary outcomes.

In the choice of the non-obvious, lies your most non-obvious success.

We often make this mistake in our professional lives.
We take feedback personally.
We assume it to be an attack. 

But it could mean something very different. 

Whenever your manager tries to show you a way to do things, there is a voice in your head that suggests “oh, my manager thinks I am dumb or stupid and that is why they have to tell me precisely what to do.”

They might simply be showing how things work, or how they could work better, should you consider it the way they are proposing. 

But if you were to think of it as a personal attack, then your instant reaction will be to reject, to defend, to argue, to counter, to resist.
And that could make all the difference between you growing, or you stagnating. 

Try this instead.
The next time your manager tells you exactly what to do, as if spoon feeding you, do not assume they are talking to you. Assume they are teaching a course, and you happen to be a student.
The course was not designed for you. It was designed for your role.
You just happen to be in that role.
This change in perspective will offer you a path to not take the feedback personally. 

How you end up doing your work, is your choice.
How you respond when shown a better way of doing your work, is your character.

Ravi and Snehesh are cofounders of nearbuy.com, the startup I was running until 2019. We make it a point to meet every 2 months or so.

Some time back when we met, it was for a special occasion.
Snehesh was moving to Bangalore and it was a farewell dinner.

And it was a special one.
We spoke about our growing kids, our current lives and also our childhood.
And a story that Snehesh shared, stayed with me. Which I wanted to share with you.

?Snehesh grew up in a small town in Bihar.
His dad ran a school there.
Like many of us, growing up was tough. Little money. Tough world.

As Snehesh was growing up, he was encouraged to take on responsibilities.

One such responsibility, one fine month, was to take care of the household expenses for that month.

Snehesh was thrilled.

This was like the “big boy” feeling.

He went berserk that month.
Spent without budget. Spent lavishly.
And not surprisingly, the month was not yet over, but the money was.

Money getting over back then meant money getting over. Not anything else.

Scared, he went to his father, admitting his mistake and terrified of what would happen.

Back then (and I am sure even now), money used to be lying around somewhere, hidden in some corner.

Some utensil.
Some pocket.
Some book.

Somewhere.

They started looking.
Every corner possible.

They found a 10 rupee note. A 50 rupee note. A 20 rupee note.

Hidden somewhere, to be discovered today.

Slowly, after a day’s search, they got some 100-200 rupees, which his father convinced him was enough to run the house until the end of the month.

Before, money for the next month would come from the fees of the school kids.

As Snehesh was narrating this, I would see him get emotional.
He lost his dad recently.

And he was very close to him.

His dad was his rock.

“After that incident my father told me to never forget this. No matter how hard the time is, no matter how stuck you feel, no matter how difficult it is, remember there is always a corner that can help you. There is always a corner that will get you out.

Just keep looking for those corners.”

And that is what I wish for all of you to realise.
There is a corner that will get you out of whatever is it that you are going through.

Just keep looking for those corners.

Your HR organised a motivational talk.
The algorithm threw an inspirational talk.
You accidentally heard someone speak of a life-changing book

And that person, that video, that book worked for you.

It left you inspired, left you with more energy than before.

But what if your HR hadn’t organised that talk, the algorithm hadn’t surfaced that video, that book didn’t come to your notice?

How would you have been left inspired then?
Are you leaving inspiration to chance? To luck?

Here’s the truth, for everyone wanting to be inspired:

Do something EVERY DAY that leaves you inspired.
Read, write, dance, play, run, act, code, teach, learn.
Whatever. 

DO NOT leave inspiration to chance.
Inspiration is a choice. 

These three words can lead to massive success in your career:

TAKE COMPLETE OWNERSHIP.

What does it mean?

– Focusing on the outcome of your work and not just the output.
“What is my work going to achieve?”
– Doing your work in a way that no one needs to ever follow-up on you
– Taking full responsibility for your actions – success and failure both.

What happens when you do this?

– Your confidence in yourself rises

– Builds your manager’s trust in you

– You are positively unpredictable in your work, making you indispensable.

– You live with an entrepreneurial mindset while working at a job. And that’s precious!

“So what if this is not my job? It is someone’s job and if I am aware of it, I will either help them do it, or I will do it myself. Because I can.”

This mindset is what the best people I have worked with always have in common. 

Not something that money can buy.

A meaningful job is the one where you find joy in your work, and people need that work.

A meaningful job is the one where you look forward to your work every day.

A meaningful job is the one where you truly truly find meaning, no matter how meaningless it appears to the rest of the world.

A meaningful job need not be the one that consumes your entire life, but for the part of life it consumes, it makes the rest parts also come alive.

Something that makes us believe we deserve to be where you are.

The easiest way to fail in life.

The easiest way to allow success to stop coming.

The easiest way to stop growing.

When you think you deserve better, you end up deserving lesser. Period.