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Unless highly technical, the course you pursue doesn’t make much difference. 

What makes all the difference is where you pursue it from.

The people you are surrounded with.
The instructors that train you.
The conversations you have.
The different mindsets you are exposed to..

Where you study is far more important than what you study.

What you pursue matters far less than what pursues you after that.

When are the times that trust is earned?
When we are supposed to show up, and we do?

Or instead – when there’s tension, uncertainty, ambiguity and we aren’t expected to show up?

Trust is earned when no one trusts us to show up and yet we do.

You’ve been kind to people.
And some have betrayed you.

You’ve been giving 100% of yourself.
And some people have broken your trust.

Should you give up your kindness?

No.

Maybe the thing to give up is that relationship.

Kindness didn’t cause you pain.
The person did. 

Your kindness didn’t backfire.
The relationship did.

Your kindness isn’t the problem. It is the biggest superpower you have.

We’re struggling hard.

To find the right piece of advice.
To find that one person who will give it to us.

However, we are always giving advice to others. 

Telling them what to do.
What not to do.
How to think.

What if we gave that advice to ourselves?
What if we trusted our own advice for the decisions that are most important to us?

The advice that we are looking for, is the advice we already give. 

We are caught up in the influencer race.
Of more likes, comments and followers.

A hundred thousand.
Five hundred thousand.
Millions of them.

And we do not think of ourselves as an influencer, until these numbers do not show.

However, we become an Influencer not by the number of followers.
Rather, by the potential influence we have on the lives of people.

What if our thoughts could affect a few people’s day positively, each day?

An influencer isn’t defined by their follower count.
They are defined by the lives they touch.

Whom do we call a wise person?

Is it someone who knows everything?
Someone who has strong convincing skills?
Someone who believes in what they say?

A wise person is someone who does what is right, without the intention of convincing others. 

They do not care what people say about them.
They care about the impact they intentionally make. 

They do not work to impress those around.
They do their own thing and let their brand be made from there.

When someone doesn’t feel the need to show they’re wise, they’re truly wise.

Remember the time you did something wrong as a kid?
And instead of lying about it, you decide to own up and tell your parents about it?

However you got scolded, instead of being appreciated for speaking your truth

That becomes your worldview.
That is how you get to understand how the world works.

Are we doing the exact same thing to people around us?

By not appreciating someone for their vulnerability and truth, all we do is cultivate liars.

The first few episodes of the Netflix series are boring.
However, you still keep watching the series. 

Because a friend told you to stay at it because it gets interesting eventually.

What if we treat our goals and our journey the same way?
Keep at them even when they are boring early on — because it gets interesting eventually?

Persistence isn’t a one-day miracle, it’s a conscious choice translated into habit.

Lots of work on the list?
Several hindrances?
Unable to focus?

Do you also sometimes feel the same way about your work?

No matter how much you try to focus on your important tasks, the hindrance just keeps coming up. It’s almost repeated on an endless loop.

The real task then is the hindrance that comes in your work.

That problem that keeps repeating itself is your task.
The individual that doesn’t help you reach your goal is the one you need to have a conversation with.
The distraction that doesn’t let you focus, is what you have to manage first.

What hinders your task is your task.

Myth: You can give your 100% to work every day.

Between your home life, social life, and professional life, you don’t operate at 100% efficiency.

If you force yourself to give your 100% every day, you will burn out.

Here’s how I approach it:

I know that my best effort looks different each day.

Depending on my energy levels, physical activity, social interactions, type of work, etc.

This is also why I advocate for setting habits over goals.

It helps me show up every day, work as much as I can mindfully (even if that’s a small step), and focus on the input over the output.

This way, you are still giving it 100% – of what you can give.

How much you work should never define your worth.