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Your goal is not to show others that you are better.
Your goal is to become better together.

Once we understand that the loss of one person in any relationship is the loss of both, we stop optimising for “winning” the conversations.

Only when we allow instead of assuming them to follow, we create a mutual win instead of a hollow win.

Don’t try to win conversations.

Try to have one.

Three lies most of us have been fed about workplaces:

There is politics.
There are people conspiring to bring you down.
That no one wants you to win.

Several organisations exist where you are respected and nurtured as a human being.

Your number one job is not to find a job, your number one job is to find an organisation where merit is more important than what you know.

If you are someone who loves reading, and were asked to watch only YouTube videos as your source of learning, you would hate it!
Because you are not being yourself.

So is the case with consistency.
You will always struggle to be consistent at what you don’t like, or somewhere you do not have to be yourself.

The most consistent people, are simply being themselves all of the time.

To show up when you do not have to mask up, is the secret sauce to consistency.

“How can I bring new people on my podcast, what do you think is the best way to convince them?”

Someone asked me this in an IG live.

Here’s what I suggested them: I’m always looking for stories. If I find a good story, I figure a way to bring them on – not necessarily bigger channels than me, rather also smaller or the ones at the same scale at me.

It is the stories that touch the heart. Followers and growth simply follow.

The world teaches resisting ain’t a good thing.
I’d agree.

Except, when it is.

The world will prescribe you a success formula.

Finish college by X

Get a job by X

Get married by X

First car by X

House by X

Resist it and find your own formula!

All the successful people around you went through multiple failures.

It is the sauce of endurance, lessons from failures, and staying at the game longer than anyone who thinks you have a right to stay in the game – is what ultimately creates success.

Success isn’t just an achievement.
Success is wisdom.
Success is understanding the recipe.
Success is using your failures to reflect.
Success is a process!

When gains come quickly we tend to lose sight of the basic wisdom

True success, to really last, must come through hard work.

Quick success comes without wisdom. It is perhaps luck.

True success comes with tears, toil and time. It creates luck.

If you play a game designed by someone else, you have no choice but to play it by their rules!

Want your own rules?
Make your own game!

Do you want to succeed on your own terms? Create those terms.

Do you want to know what failure will be according to you? Create those.

Don’t want to follow   society’s rules of happiness and peace? Feel free to craft yours.

Society has designed a game that tricks people into believing they are winning, even if they feel hollow inside.

True winning and losing is choosing your wins and losses.

That’s scary. Yet I’ve not found a single more liberating thing than this.

If you were to ask me a career advice I’d want to download to someone starting out in their career (and in the middle of it as well), is this:

Do what you say. EVERY. SINGLE. TIME.

The world is filled with broken professional commitments, and high expectations of growth. This isn’t how life works.
Anyone would care for us only if we care for what they say and keep up with what we do.
That builds trust.
Not in big moments like being on time for an Annual Meeting. Rather in daily small insignificant actions that either generate significance over time, or make people sure that they are not worth our trust!

Trust is the biggest career advice.
And the easiest to not pay attention to.

1. Creating (and living) by your own definition of success. Not someone else’s.

2. Making sure you are happy doing what you do. Every single day.

3. Divorcing goals and getting married to habits.

Someone asked me today, “My friends party at high-end places on the weekends, however, I cannot afford it. So I feel bad.”

Here’s my question to them: Why are you still friends with them?

Not because they party.
Rather because they make you feel bad about yourself.

True friends, don’t abandon you emotionally.