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One of the biggest mistakes I made as a leader was I assumed that if I sugar coat what I didn’t like about people’s way of working, they will feel less hurt.

Instead, they were left confused!

I mistook being nice as being helpful. 

Being clear and direct is more important than being nice.

Because if you are so nice that it starts making noise, it is not being nice. It is disguise.

There are emails.
There are WhatsApp messages.
There are urgent things to attend to.

And here’s what most of us do: Attend to them.
Allow them to invade what’s important.
Someone else’s urgent becomes more important than what’s most important to us.

Why do we do that?

Why don’t we stand for what is most important to us – something that will NEVER come back – our time?

When we respect our time, we eventually respect everyone else.
When we let someone else’s urgent invade our important, we lose respect for everyone else. Including ourselves.

It is simple. I do not deal with them.

If someone says something that seems reasonable, I respond. Sometimes even have back-to-back conversations.

If someone says something that is not true, I simply have fun. By not responding most of the times :)

Win-win.

The truth is, if you truly know yourself, no one can touch you. If you are at peace with who you are, external chaos is merely a chatter. If you are aware of your qualities as well as disadvantages, you have an unfair advantage that most people don’t have. And that’s the most powerful thing.

One of the biggest mistakes Indian parents make is to not teach us accountability at an early age, and then suddenly make us responsible for all our actions.

It is okay for the kid to know that if they stumbled and fell on the floor, the floor is not to be beaten. It is the kid that needs to learn how to walk properly.

But, we can talk about how our parents screwed up, or take responsibility to make everyone around us accountable.

A not so good past is a chance to create a so-good future!

Binge watching is not relaxing you. It is numbing you.

\Your mind is not thinking. It is consuming.

Your eyes are not calm. They are wide open.

You are not active. Your body is decaying gradually.

If there is only one benefit of binge-watching, it is the awareness of the zero benefits it brings.

How many times do you create an excuse, even when the choice is always with you?

You have the choice to push a little harder.
Or the choice to say a polite no.
Or the choice to have a conversation and make things easier for everyone.

Even when you are making an excuse, you are still making a choice.

Excuses exclaim, choices cheer us up!

Spend more time appreciating others than you spend on waiting for others to appreciate you.

Did you know that when you appreciate others for what they do when they are not around, it travels to them quicker than you think?

Did you know that when you appreciate others for what they do in front of them, their self confidence rises?

And when you do both of these, you will stop feeling the craving for others to appreciate you!

Giving away appreciation gives away the need to have it. And that’s beautiful.

You will learn your most valuable lessons from committing the very same mistakes you knew you should have avoided.

Of course, you know what to avoid.

But if you have fallen into the trap of still committing that mistake, you are now so rich in wisdom that no bang on the head can wash it away.

As much as you seek wisdom, so does wisdom seek you :)

If you fall down from a high rise building, no matter if you are a good person or not, you will die. That is the law of Physics – law of gravity.

So is another law of Physics – law of energy.
Which is: In order to give energy, you have to gain energy.
In conversations.
In work.
In life.

Once you understand and start living your life from law of energy, life changes in a manner you had never imagined!
Because now you operate with science, instead of defying against it!

Energy is the place where humans must spend their energy on!

The most beautiful thing about anger or any negative emotion is, that the moment you become aware of them, they vanish!
Yet we are wanting for some external force to kill it over without being aware of it in the first place!

Awareness curses negativity.
Awareness ceases existence.
Awareness creates emotion you want to live with.

And that’s beautiful!!

Anger’s purpose is not to fix the unfulfilled need within you.
It is simply to make you aware that there is an unfulfilled need within you.