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When will I feel fulfilled?

When should I quit my job?

When will I find satisfaction and joy in my relationships?

The answer to these questions isn’t the timeline.

The answer to these questions is reaching a place where you aren’t concerned about the time you reach there, and experience them in the now. Or better yet, you are okay not knowing these answers.

It is good to be curious.

However, curiosity acts as a rocket ship when it is fueled by being okay with knowing or not knowing some answers. Your job is to get to that place of being okay, so that you use your curiosity cells in the right direction.

To get to a place of stopping to ask some questions is sometimes the real way to get curious.

Make it personal, i.e., authentic.
Document your journey. Be real.
Just start.

The third is the hardest. And the only thing you can control.

All big things start off small. But they start :)

It is truly a secret. Because not too many people talk about it.

The secret to creating endless opportunities is doing the daily work with consistent growth, without worrying about making it big.

This is the secret to me getting an offer for a book deal.
Or me having offers for speaking gigs.
Or to create courses for corporates.

None of these happened because I wrote on my goal card “to make this happen by xx date.”

I rather jumped on to taking the smallest action on the very same date, and hence, landing up opportunities because of those habits.

The secret to having endless opportunities lies in micro, daily habits of doing the difficult task, and growing at it – day after day. Even when no one is watching. Because you are. And that is more than enough.

I recently posted this on Twitter:

Companies want to shower you with perks and privileges so that you feel entitled.
They want to give you money so that you take on loans.
They want to keep promoting you so that you get addicted.
They want you to think that this job is your only true definition of success.

That’s sad yet true.

When someone asked me if I also used to do this, the truth is, I still do it.

Companies don’t change. People realize this and make changes.

The other day I went to Sandeep Maheshwari’s office, to record a video for his channel.

Amongst the multiple question that were asked to me, I asked Sandeep what was his daily routine like.

In the broad outline that he shared, he explicitly mentioned how he spent 2 hours every morning and evening working on himself, contemplating, thinking – basically nurturing himself.

He sleeps 8 hours everyday. Out of the remaining 16, 4 are spent on himself.

THAT is the secret! The secret is to work on yourself, do things that energise you, before you go on and give to the world.

Once you have given to yourself, whenever you go out into the world, you will be a forever giver. That’s the most beautiful thing about being selfish :)

It is one of the strongest bonds that we look forward to, as kids.
However, while growing up, we dilute that relationship. Because we do not feel ourselves there. We don’t feel seen.
And then, to get back to loving them, because you have too little time left with them.

Your parents will go away some day.

You might not love being around them. But you certainly will hate them not being around.

The time to not have regrets is now. Because love and time don’t wait.

What happens when a legendary sports player retires from the game officially?
What do they take away with them?
What do they leave behind?

As Roger Federer announces his retirement today, I get into a reflective mode. It got me thinking:

• The game continues. It always does.
• There will be players better than him, worse than him, but no one like him.
• His dedication to the craft, the sacrifices he endured, the body of hard work he built – were his and his alone. And now ours, to draw inspiration from.
• However, the reason he could rise to such exemplary levels and create multiple records without setting out to create them, was because he focused on what he could control: his game.
• That is what we all get to control: our game. Nothing else. Not that of the competitors. Nor of anyone else. Just our own. And that is, more than enough.

Here’s to winning our own game. Because we choose to play it. Just like Roger. Roger that :)

Seth Godin knows the market he writes for.
So does Gary Vee – for his videos.
So does Bhuvan Bam.

The big thing about the big shots is that they never focused on getting big. They focused on their smallest viable audience, and never stopped doing their small things in the grandest manner.

The secrets we are looking for are having a big break that changed everything.
The secret we must know is that you have the power to create your own small break, and with time, it will change the biggest of things.

They ask questions because they are curious.
They ask questions because they genuinely want to know.
They ask questions because they are okay appearing dumb in front of others, instead of staying that dumb forever.

Go, ask the question you want to ask. Because, you want to ask!

Asking isn’t a fad. Asking is what will keep you from being mad.

The beautiful thing about time management is that you do not have to be productive 24*7.

You may choose to be productive just for 3-4 hours of the day. And that is enough.

However, to get there, you need to understand your relationship with time.

To understand your relationship with time, you need to track your time.

In order to track your time, you need to be more disciplined.

Discipline creates awareness. Awareness leads way to order. That order lets you decide how much you decide to be productive.

Productivity needn’t be pervasive. But the desire to get there must be.