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One of the biggest mistakes I made was thinking I will keep my parents happy with the money I make.

I will send them on vacations, buy them things, and make their life comfortable.
But the busier I got, the less happy they were, despite all the things they now had.

The truth is that we have much less time with our parents than we think.

Our parents are going to die, and we have no idea when.
Sadly, we do not have all the time in the world.

So call them.
Tell them you love them.
Thank them.
Spend time with them.

Because all that our parents really want is us spending more time with them.

True relationships do not need things to grow.
They need time.

So be sure to give your loved ones this time.

I consciously and obsessively do NOT remember things.

I always carry a notebook with me.
Taking notes like a school student.
Putting tasks in a calendar.
Sending myself emails in the future.

The mind’s energy should be spent in thinking.
Not remembering!

Your salary is not your success.
Your happiness is.

Your score is not your success.
Your learning is.

Your designation is not your success.
YOUR description of your designation is.

The world has made us believe a fake definition of success.
Not falling for it is the biggest success!

If you are someone who spends 8-10 hours on a computer screen every day, this is for you:

1. Take 2-3 breaks of 5-10 minutes and take a walk outdoors.

You will be less cranky, less lethargic and more productive.

2. Look outdoors every 30 minutes.

The pupils in our eyes do not get their exercise because they are always constricted on a screen, and hence, we feel tired.

Looking outdoors gives our eyes much needed exercise of change in focus, and hence, makes them at ease.

3. Use Pomodoro Technique

25 minutes of work. 5 minutes of break. Followed by a longer break after 3-4 such cycles.

There is no way your productivity won’t increase because of this.

More often than not, you can’t change the demands your work has from you.
However, you can demand the best of your health and inner peace from yourself, without compromising on your work.

You don’t deserve any less :)

1. Failure + Reflection = Learning

When we say that failure leads to learning, it is a lie.
Everyone fails in their life.
But not everyone learns something from their failure.

There is something that exists between failure and learning.

It is reflection.
Reflecting on what happened.

For example:

“What did I not know back then, that I know today?”
“What belief did I have back then, that I know is not true today?”

2. Discipline + Progress = Motivation

Progress is a critical component for motivation.

If we do not measure our progress, or worse, measure the wrong movement, we will eventually lose motivation.
EVEN IF we are actually progressing.
It is like going to the gym without any mirrors, any weighing scale, or any measuring tapes.

Even if you show up everyday and are getting fit, you will eventually quit.
Because you can’t FEEL progress.

3. Consistency + Authenticity = Personal brand

Your personal brand is the emotion generated in others when they think of you.
It is made up of the values you stand for.

With that definition, EVERYONE out there has a personal brand.
It is the reach that differs.

Your brand gets built by what you do consistently, to the extent of becoming predictable, and what you do authentically, to the extent that people see the same version of you, irrespective of where they see you.

If you are unpredictable, or put up a façade, that’s what your brand will become.

Nothing can beat the feeling of:

1. Meeting people in real life.

2. Learning from the life of someone else, through their book, for the cost of a pizza!

3. A fresh mango on a summer afternoon.

It is not you who changes your environment.
Your environment changes you.

That is why it is critical to pick the right environment.
Or move away from the wrong ones.

This applies to every aspect of life.

College.
Work.
Friends.
Partner.
Family.
Relatives.

Everyone is carrying a burden.
We just see ours.

Be kind to people.
Be kind to yourself.
Always.

I am a game builder and I have created a whole new game for you.

Here is how it works.

Each time you play, there is a 90% chance that you will lose!
Yeah, you heard that right – 90% chance that you will lose.
BUT – the amount that you lose, is capped.
YOU WILL NEVER lose more than a certain amount, which is known to you already.

No matter how much you bet, the loss is always up to a maximum loss. Never beyond that.

10% of the times that you play this game, you can win.

And when you win, you can win BIG. There is no upper limit. You can win infinitely. More than you ever needed in life.

In short, 90% of the times you lose with a maximum loss (you will not lose beyond that), and 10% you win with no maximum gain (you can win any amount – no upper cap).

Here is my question for you.
How many times will you play this game?

Here is my answer.
?Every single day of my life!

?If I know that my loss is capped but my gains are infinite, I will play this game as many times as I can, to get to that 10% win probability.

This, my dear friend, is the game of life.

If you are reading this post, you understand English, are most probably consuming it on a smartphone, so you can afford it and also have access to high-speed internet.
What this means is that whatever risk you take in life, your loss is capped.
WHATEVER risk you take – you are NEVER going to lose everything.

We are all privileged. We are never going to die of hunger or poverty. We are never going to be there on the streets.
Our losses are capped.

They are notional in our head – what will people say, I will not have as much as others, others will make fun of me.
These are not losses.
These are feelings.

Our actual loss in life is capped – whenever we take any risk.

But if we win, IF WE WIN – we can change our entire life!

If this is truly the game of life, I would play this game again and again and again and again and again and again!

Would you?

“If I were in the panel, I would never shortlist this resume.”

With that, he dropped my resume, the corner of which he had been holding with his thumb and index finger.

The single page resume floated in the air, before landing on the pristine wooden table.

What could I have said at this moment?

January 2005
Taj Palace Hotel, New Delhi
My interview for ISB

It was my first time entering the grand Taj Palace in Delhi.
As if the nervousness wasn’t enough, the grandeur of the place left me overwhelmed. 

I felt small.
A harsh reminder that I wasn’t supposed to be here in the first place.
Applying to an MBA program that preferred 2 years of work experience.
Real-life experience.

I had none.
All I had was a drop-out status.
And a confused state of mind.

My name was called out.

I open the door, to enter a large boardroom.
In front of me are 3 gentlemen.
Sharp suits. Cheerful faces. They looked smart.
Or maybe that’s what I thought everyone from ISB looked like.

Was I even a fit?

They introduced themselves.
2 alums and 1 from the administrative team.

They ask me for my resume.

I had a colored resume.
Blue.
And it had a footprint, as a background.

“Why does your resume have a footprint?”
“Because it was my print on the sand I have walked on?”

I thought that was a deep, smart answer.

“Good thought. But most likely will not work in a corporate setup.”

Oh! There is something called a corporate setup? 

They asked me about my US experience, why I dropped out, what did I learn there. 

And then came the question.
“What would you like to do, post ISB?”

“I honestly don’t know. I am hoping I will figure it out through the year. My peers, professors and the setting will expose me to a lot more than I know today.”

“But still, what are your preferences?”

“Ummm – I really like numbers and I am good with them. So maybe, finance?”

“If I were in the panel, I would never shortlist this resume.”

The admin team member had the corner of my resume held with his thumb and index finger.
He made this remark, raised it above his head, and let go of the resume.
It came floating down, landing on the wooden table.

Which gave me 2 seconds to digest what just happened.

“In that case, I am happy that you will not be part of the panel.”

WTF! Was that rude? Too direct? Unnecessary? Cocky?

He smiled.
I heaved a sigh of relief.

3 weeks later, I received the email :))

ISB took a bet on me.
I had nothing to offer.
And I, till date, do not know why it chose me.

That 1-year just changed my life.
It changed everything about me.

Because while I went to ISB looking for a job and a career and a salary and a brand and a position and all the nice things, I went to ISB looking for myself. 

Who am I?
What am I good at?
What am I not good at?

And the ISB opportunity gave me those answers. 

Some people work hard to get the opportunity.
Some work hard once they get the opportunity.