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Your college.
Your job.
Your car.
Your phone.
Your clothes.
Your choices. 

Remember that people judge because they want to feel good about themselves.
It has nothing to do with you.
It is their insecurity.

1) The Energy Drainer: 

You feel tense and uneasy after each interaction with them.

2) The Pessimist: 

They have a negative outlook of the world.
Always try to talk you out of your dreams.

3) The Criticizer: 

They don’t support you in your decisions.
They criticize every move you make.
They make you feel like you can’t do anything right.

4) The Manipulator: 

They try to control everything. 

Pretend to like you and other people.
But they just want to make every decision for themselves and others.

5) The Victim: 

They blame others for their misfortune.
Constantly seek attention from others.
Talk mostly about their excuse for failing.

Which of these have you encountered the most? 

Harder question: 

Which of these are you often?

While you are building your skills, the most important thing to build is your reputation.

Your goal is to make people say “I am not sure if they know how to do it. But I am certain if told to do it, they will definitely figure it out. I trust them.”

Success is made up of 99% small things done on a daily basis.

You do not have to be immensely talented and gifted in order to be successful at work and in life.

All you have to optimise for is showing up and doing the work.
Every. Single. Day.

Even when it seems boring.
Even when you don’t feel like it.

The most successful people are basically successful at staying consistent.Consistency beats talent and natural gifts.
Heck, it even beats luck.

All the work we do at wariCrew is documented and tracked on @Asana.

We have been using it for 2.5+ years now — with awesome success. 

3 reasons why:

1. It keeps everyone accountable.

2. It allows us to manage projects and their various tasks and dependencies efficiently.

3. It keeps us on time — across content and courses.

It is also the system that determines the timeliness of team members, which in turn, drives 40% of their quarterly bonus through profit sharing.

How is the profit-share determined for every individual?

While the pool is common for the team (10% of net profits), the individual amounts are determined 60% by the quality of their work (which is reviewed through their monthly self-rating followed by my assessment) and 40% by the timeliness of their work. 

Last year, the total profit-sharing pool was 52 lakhs.Such tools help our team of 21 operate remotely and asynchronously.

If you died, your manager would put out a job posting in 48 hours looking for a replacement.

Your friends and family will never get that chance.

As much as your job is necessary, do not ignore the relationships where you remain irreplaceable.

1. When speaking to people, look into their eyes.
It makes you look attentive and unbiased.

In virtual meetings, look into the camera pinhole and not their face (will take some time getting used to).
That way, you look straight into their eyes.

2. Asking simple questions with predictable answers makes you instantly likeable.

That’s why, start a first meeting with standard questions.
“Where are you from?”
“What do you do?”
“Who all are in your family?

3. If you want people to agree with you, begin by asking for a small favour that they will say yes to.

It could be anything.
Even something as basic as “Could you please pass me that pen?”

Chances are high they will agree/say yes to what you ask after.

4. To show that you are listening, keep nodding.
It will make them express more.

Ranveer Allahbadia is a master at this.

5. Your last impression is just as important, if not more, than your first impression.People’s memory of an experience is heavily dependent on how it ended.
Make that last impression count.

Someone is not respecting you for your work.
Someone else took your important project lightly. Someone else made fun of you.

All this keeps you questioning yourself.

“Am I doing things right? Do I deserve to be here? Maybe they all are right!”

When they don’t treat us right, it’s rarely because of us.
They’re themselves dealing with a lot.
Sometimes even without being aware.

Your value is a measure of what you bring to the table, your confidence and cool, and how you have the courage to figure things out when the plan has failed. 

It is rarely a function of what others do to you.

Pegging your value to how others treat you is like pegging your health to the health of others. Hardly correlated.

When you’re alone, it is super important to pay attention to your thoughts.

“What am I thinking about? Why am I thinking only what could get worse? What if I expect good things as much as I anticipate bad ones? What else could this mean?”

It turns out – what we end up doing in the world is largely a product of what we end up thinking in solitude.

In solitude, our attitude builds up.
In lack of it, we’re just a product of succumbing to someone else’s product of solitude.
The last thing we’d signed up for.

Imposter syndrome isn’t reserved for a few. 

Almost everyone suffers from it, multiple times during their lifetime.
Thus, coming up with a process is the way to deal with it:

1. Helpful vs best. You cannot be the best in the world yet whatever you do know, use it to help people.
2. There will always be someone better than you. That automatically takes off a lot of load.
3. Try not to be the imposter that you were. Being a little better than yesterday is the best progress. You’re giving yourself time. That’s the best thing!