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This notion that we can be anything we want. We can be whatever we wish to be.

It’s not true.

We suck at a lot of things.

And we are all probably good at at a few things.

And really really good at possibly none until now.

And only if we hold on to those things that we are good at – and not stress upon what we are not good at

Do we have a chance to win

Our only chance to win

Am reading the fascinating biography of Einstein – written by the impeccable Walter Isaacson.

It’s a rather long read. And as I neared the years of Einstein when he left Germany for the US – my eyes quickly glanced to the chapter length.

The bottom left suggested the chapter was 20 mins.

Wow – that’s a lot chapter – the longest one thus far, I found telling myself.

And right then, it struck me.

These were 2 years of someone’s life.

And that someone happens to be Albert Einstein.

And here I was expressing (possibly) frustration that the chapter was 20 minutes long.

2 years of a life boiled down to 20 mins.

And even that seems long.

This is what will happen to all of us.

Our lives will eventually be reduced to a few minutes, a few pages, a few memories, a few incidents.

And while one can feel bad about this fact, the takeaway (yet again) for me was – most things that happen to us in real time don’t matter.

Most of our reactions are misdirected, unnecessary and avoidable.

Most of our emotions are temporary.

Most of our life will not be remembered by our own selves, forget others.

And yet we spend an inordinate amount of time fretting over our situations, our circumstances, how the world is unfair, how we should have behaved, how someone should have spoken to us, how we failed to do something.

In the end all of us will boil down to our own 20 minutes.

And now think –

What will those 20 mins be?

What would you like them to be?

And what will soon seem trivial?

A week back on Sunday, I posted a survey on instagram, at 5am.

Do you get up early everyday?

Within 3 hours I had an overwhelming majority – 83% saying yes!

At 9am I could have safely concluded that majority of my network on instagram wakes up early.

And then it happened.

The late risers started to wake up.

And they, just as everyone else, checked their phones first.

By 11am, the survey was 48% yes and 52% no.

Here is the best part though – I still don’t know the exact result.

What is “early” for you may not be for me.

So what did people have in mind when they said I don’t wake up early or that I do.

We will never find out.

What’s obvious though – is that through the day, I have enough occasions to convince myself of a conclusion.

A conclusion backed by primary data.

That’s how most of us end up behaving in real life.

We seek conclusions that validate our beliefs. We seek people that agree to our views. We crave for data that endorses our point of view.

And then we go “aha! I knew it!”

The destroyer of an echo chamber isn’t an alternate point of view. It’s you yourself.

This disgusting title emerges in my newsletter.

I call it disgusting because it’s selling a dream that is destructive in nature.

A dream that tries to suggest that something deep can be attained quickly.

And there is a trick you aren’t aware of, that several people have deployed.

So you are the stupid person, to not know this.

The title feeds on people’s insecurities and desire for speedy redemption.

There was a time when information didn’t travel as fast.

What you knew, you knew deeply.

Awareness almost always meant deep understanding and research.

Today, you don’t need to understand anything. knowing is considered good enough.

And in this works of shallow understanding and all pervasive awareness, the act of research is an act of rebellion.

Curiosity is the new IQ

You receive a phone call.

Hello?

It’s hello with a question mark.

When we say hello, what we really mean is “who is it?”

And yet, we rarely ask “who is it?”.

It’s hello – it’s what the world uses. It’s the default. It’s the accepted norm. It’s meaning has completely changed. And yet it continues to be used.

That begs the question

How many things in your life are still being used, even when their meaning has completely changed?

Just because it’s something you are used to?

When did you turn a greeting into a question, without realizing it?

Jeff Bezos famously spoke about the culture at Amazon – disagree and commit.

Not everyone will agree to a single point of view. And yet one has to ensure the company moves forward.

So you get everyone in a room, have an honest debate about the decision to be made and seek opinions.

At the end of it all, you would hopefully have most of the participants aligned on one point of view.

There will still be some that are not. And for those – you can chose to disagree, but we want you to commit.

In the end, we will know which side of the argument held more weight.

The hard part about disagree and commit is not the disagreement.

It’s the commitment.

I told you so

I always knew this won’t work

See, this is exactly what I had predicted

You should have trusted my experience/data

So while it takes a lot of courage to instill a culture of disagree and commit, it takes even more for individuals to remain committed.

Every single day, you are not only fighting against your own self doubt, but also the false support of success from others.

Our car came back from servicing day before

I drove it and could instantly hear a noise that wasn’t there before. Right when one accelerates. And it’s loud. Quite audible.

I send the car back to check on it.

The technician sits in the car, next to the driver. He is driven around. And not surprisingly, he can hear the noise too.

So he pulls this a mobile app. It’s a diagnostic tool. It connects to various parts of the car and diagnoses potential issues, I am assuming basis several parameters.

It’s honestly quite fancy.

He tests the car on the app and the app gives it a clear sign.

88% working condition.

And the technician goes – “sir, your car is perfectly fine. There is no problem.”

“But…you just heard the noise. Didn’t you?”

“Yes, I did. But the app says there is no problem.”

“Well, yes. The app says so. But you too know that there is something wrong with the car.”

“Sir. The app says there isn’t anything wrong”

Extend this scenario to life.

How often do we allow set norms and processes and rules to overrule the one thing what truly sets us apart.

Our judgement.

How often do we allow any “machine” – technological, social, financial – to supersede our gut.

But, Our rule books says this is the way it’s supposed to be done.

But, my parents say this is the right thing for me.

But, my religion says this isn’t right.

But, my boss says don’t do this.

But, the world doesn’t work this way.

Don’t allow something created by humans, to become a bigger truth than humans themselves.