Blog

“I don’t have the time.”
This self-sabotaging statement drifts people from acting on their dream projects.

The universal truth is everyone has the same twenty-four hours.

What we do during that window makes or does not make a difference.

Searching for more time is essentially searching for more energy.
When we figure out how to have more energy we’ll be left with even more time!

We don’t need more time.
We just need more self awareness to pursue things that give us energy.

Chasing worldly success is illusive.
What looks like success to us doesn’t match with others.

Setting our own standards of success, irrespective of the noises is real success.

Staying true to those standards is getting truly successful.

Everyone has their own metric of success.
The same applies to us as well.

An unexpected hack to create opportunities:
Read all your emails.

It will tell you what businesses are upto. What is being sold, what is being promoted, what is being spoken about, what is creating the news. 

It will tell you what your friends are upto. What are their questions? In their Life. And for you. 

Reading doesn’t mean chewing, understanding and remembering it.
It just means scrolling, and diving further if needed.

Great opportunities don’t come with the subject line: Great opportunity.
They occasionally show up in emails!

Comfort is a trap.
Getting out of that trap is real success.

How to know if we are challenging our comfort zone?

By asking ourselves the question:
“Is there a high probability of success when we do something?”

If yes, we are getting comfortable.
If not, we are on the right track of challenging ourselves.

Consistently going towards things where success is less probable and if it still comes in, we are successfully breaking the bubble of comfort zone.

It’s a wonderful goal to lose 10kgs in 3 months.
Or to make sure you get promoted this year.
Or to find the love of your life within a year.

However we don’t have a basis for setting that goal..
And if we don’t reach the goal, we call ourselves a failure.

An alternate then is to not set goals.
Instead, take some action daily.

I will workout daily
I will gather feedback on all my projects, even if they might not be positive..
I will be genuinely interested in people and say hi to every new person I meet..

Over time, the need for action will be replaced by addiction to action.

Goals can make you look like a winner or a loser.
Habits only have winners! 

A great way to ace video interviews is to have a customised background.
The background is a function of whom you are interacting with.

If the interviewer is a risk-taker, let the background define yourself that way.
If the interviewer is risk-averse, let the background be modest while defining who you are.

It will require research.
It will require you know the interviewer fully well, before meeting them.
It would require you to make efforts to go beyond a one size fits all background.

Don’t personalise it. Make it personal.
– Seth Godin

Free time is something we all should make room for, in our days.
Not on days when there are less items to cross.
Rather every day, even on the busiest ones.

Read books.
Practise a skill you are inclined towards.
Or just do nothing and be alone.

It is not time wasted.
Rather if we do not make free time, the “productive” time would be longer, hazy and even confusing. 

Most of life is to maximize our free time. 

We should stop feeling bad.
We should stop feeling hurt over what’s over.
We should stop feeling regretful.

This is the advice we get when we are going through a negative emotion.
While this is what we know we should do, it is exactly what we are unable to do.

We want the negative emotion to go, but it persists.
The negative emotion persists, because we are resisting it.

What if, we just let it in?
What if we accepted that we are feeling this way?
What if we acknowledged the emotion instead of masking it as an elephant in the room that never existed?

When letting go doesn’t work, letting in does.

If we do not consume alcohol, our default response is to believe the ones consuming it are bad people.
If we do not party on weekends, our default response is to believe the ones doing so are bad people.
If we do not believe in relationships before marriage, our default response is to believe the ones who have them are bad people.
We have these moralistic views of what comprises good or bad in people! Driven by what we do. 

People don’t do things because they are bad people. They do it because in their head they have come to terms with what comprises good or bad. Just as we have a definition of it as well. 

Actions don’t make people good or bad.
Our beliefs make them so! 

It is easy to feel hurt. when someone gives you harsh feedback.  

However, if you only focused on the feedback and not the tone of it, you would perhaps learn something new.. 

• Don’t pay attention to the noise. Focus on the signal.
• There is always something more to know. Knowing everything is the beginning of stopping to know.
• Own it up and fix things.

The only superpower that could never be taken away from us is being real, is being us.
Zero competition!