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Whenever I have a tinge of thought stating what would people say, I bring myself down to the basic fundamental thought:

“Log kya sochenge?”

Agar yeh bhi tum sochne lago ge

To log kya sochoge?

It turns out, what people think is their responsibility to think. When we think of what they are thinking, we are letting go of our responsibility to think for ourselves, and take on the unsolicited responsibility of others. Not the best thing for anyone :)

Once we are out of school and college we spend the rest of our lives trying to undo what school and college did to us.

School teaches us memorising paras. Life wants us to understand things.
School prescribes a conventional career path. Life shows us most success is created unconventionally.
School wants us to follow commands. Life wants us to be curious. And break some norms.

The best thing to know about school and college is to know that life is our biggest school, which only begins once the formal school and college gets over.

The purpose of writing a blog is different from the purpose of writing a landing page.

The purpose of having a 1:1 is different from having a review.

The purpose of building a community is different from starting with the intention to sell.

None is wrong. They are just different. So is their foundation and composition going to be different.

When we understand the differences between seemingly similar things and act with that empathy, is when our work starts truly making a difference.

You are responsible for professional growth of your team. Whereas family, you accept them unconditionally.

You must give constructive feedback to your team. Whereas you love your family despite their flaws.

You may perhaps have to even fire a team member and bring a new one, if they are not growing. If you treat them as a family, you deny them the growth they deserve because you are now bound to keep them happy. Not a good thing either for your team nor for you.

The best thing you could do to your team’s growth, is not treat them like family.

The smartest learn from everything and everyone.
The smart ones from their experiences.
The stupid already have all the answers.

The smartest people live their lives like a stupid – looking for answers, finding life lessons in experiences of others, and never settling their curiosity down.

The ones who do not purposefully go on to become the smartest learn from whatever life throws at them. It’s external. Not conscious.

The ones who think who already know everything, are the ones whom you ought not to become.

We choose who we are, by what we fervently look for. And what we don’t.

The world wants you to settle in your 20s.

Get done with your studies.
Get a nice job.
Earn a salary.
Get married.
On your way to have kids.
Buy that car.
That house perhaps.

Settle.

Settle.

Settle!

Spend your 20s exploring and not settling.
Don’t box yourself.
Free yourself.

The best way to settle, is to not focus on “settling down.”

The most difficult person you will spend time time, is you yourself

Most of us do not spend time with ourselves.

Because we are scared of what we might find.

Or scared of what we might tell ourselves.

Our thoughts are our biggest strength, our biggest enemy and our biggest competition.

It is up to us which role we play for our own self.

When we understand this, spending time with yourself becomes the easiest thing to do.

Yesterday we hit 1 Mn on YouTube.
It took us 5 years of relentless content creation, most of the time during which, no one was watching us.

And as we were celebrating on the Zoom call, I told my team a powerful thing:
In less than a decade, we will hit 10 Mn followers.
10 Million.
1 Crore people will listen to you and wait for your videos.

Now look at it from the perspective of life.
If you did something relentlessly for 10 years, you can become the top 1% of the world.
And calculating that with the number of years you are going to live, you can become the top 1% of the world in 4-5 things.
Isn’t that a wonderful thing?

The reason we all struggle is because we want everything yesterday.

Live your entire life in a way that you don’t have to become someone else to live it!

Are you living your parents’ life just because you were scared to have ONE brave conversation?

Are you in a relationship because you were scared of being lonely for one year, and now are lonely despite being in a relationship?

Are you with friends who make you feel privileged on having them or are you with friends that help you grow?

It takes courage to live your life.
However, it takes 10X courage and daily self-betrayal to live someone else’s life.

Why would you want to choose that?

Half of our problems are not being able to distinguish between what we should do, want to do and have to do.

I should become an engineer/CA/lawyer/doctor
I want to become an engineer/CA/lawyer/doctor
I have to become an engineer/CA/lawyer/doctor

I should = what we think the world expects from us
I want = what we expect from our ourselves
I have = there is no choice between these two!

Should is a societal norm.
Want is the call of the heart.
Have to is the action out of obligation.

Awareness is having the wisdom to know the difference between the three.

Do you want to do your job or do you have to do your job?
Do you want to live with your parents or should you live with your parents?

Taking action is the next step.
The first one is knowing the real problem.