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One day you are happy with what you have got.
You are working hard every day. You are content. You are fulfilled.
The next day you meet someone doing way better than you.

Would that hinder your contentment and happiness?
While your grass was green all through, would you be affected by the existence of supposedly greener grass?

If the answer is yes, here is a question to ask.
Did the greener side always exist and you got to know about it just now?
Or did it come up after you?

We think if we say no, people will leave us.
We will hurt them.
They will think poorly of us.

We don’t want people to reject us, and so we find it difficult to reject them.
This is why saying no becomes insanely hard.

When we say no, we say no to a request. Not to the person.

“I need help”

It’s very hard for us to accept that we need help.
We attach it to our pride, which stops us from seeking help from others.
And from books. From videos. From content. From life.

Pride makes us afraid.
It forces us to not learn.
It forces us to not ask.
It forces us to pretend that everything is in control.

But here is the reality.
Every time we ask for help, we learn.
Every time we say “I need help”, someone helps.

Pride has left more people alone, than loneliness ever will.

It doesn’t matter what we say, people will only understand it through their experiences, in their context, through their lens, driven by their biases.

Now, that might make us think, why does it even matter what we say if that’s the case?
But here’s a better question to ask:
“How can I make an attempt to be understood?”

The words don’t matter. The intent does. The effort does. Empathy does.

The treadmill is a fascinating device.
You walk on it, jog, run, run as fast as you can. Burn energy. Start panting.

But you don’t move an inch forward.
You are exactly where you were, when you started.

Here’s something to think about. Are we putting our hard work and passion into something that is moving us forward?
Or are we busy running at the same spot?

Failing the treadmill test is the best thing you can do to yourself!

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When you meet some of your friends, you feel excited. You feel pumped up and you feel cared for.

While when you meet some of the other friends, your energy gets drained. Enthusiasm lowers each time. And you just don’t feel cared for!
These are the friends you chose to be with.
You were not born into these relationships.
And since you chose them, you can also choose to get out of them.

When you take energy-draining people out of your life, you stand up for yourself. 
That’s not being mean. That’s an act of self-love.

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“Oh, you are doing such great work!”
“This is awesome!”
“It’s so good!”

We love positive feedback! All of us do.
It gives us the confidence to keep doing what we are doing.

But if we keep doing what we do, how would we ever grow?
After a point, what really helps us grow is listening to people who do not have positive feedback.
People who chose not to engage.
They will lead us to our next step if only, we choose to listen.

While it is not necessary to accept everything that people say, it is important to listen and be aware of what they have to say!

Remember that one time, when we did something wrong as a kid?
But, we decided to own up to our mistake and tell the truth to our parents?
And we got scolded?

Remember that one time, when we did something wrong as a kid?
But, we decided to tell the truth to our teachers?
And we got scolded?

And remember that one time, when we did something wrong as a kid?
But, we decided to lie to everyone?
And we weren’t scolded!

Are we doing the exact same thing to people around us?

By not appreciating someone for their vulnerability and truth, all we do is cultivate liars.

We often seek advice when we have multiple options in front of us.
And we are unsure of which option to pick!

There begins our journey of finding the right answer.
We look for people who have taken similar decisions before, hoping that we will get an answer!

However, there’s one thing that we often forget in the process.
Their experiences are not ours.
Their advice will be based on the outcome of their decisions.
Which could be driven by the advice of someone else – that’s even worse!

I would rather follow my gut.
If I will ask myself honestly, I will get the answer –  an answer which would be way better than anyone else’s!

PS: Don’t take my advice on this – build yours :)