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The world wants you to settle in your 20s.

Get done with your studies.
Get a nice job.
Earn a salary.
Get married.
On your way to have kids.
Buy that car.
That house perhaps.

Settle.

Settle.

Settle!

Spend your 20s exploring and not settling.
Don’t box yourself.
Free yourself.

The best way to settle, is to not focus on “settling down.”

The most difficult person you will spend time time, is you yourself

Most of us do not spend time with ourselves.

Because we are scared of what we might find.

Or scared of what we might tell ourselves.

Our thoughts are our biggest strength, our biggest enemy and our biggest competition.

It is up to us which role we play for our own self.

When we understand this, spending time with yourself becomes the easiest thing to do.

Yesterday we hit 1 Mn on YouTube.
It took us 5 years of relentless content creation, most of the time during which, no one was watching us.

And as we were celebrating on the Zoom call, I told my team a powerful thing:
In less than a decade, we will hit 10 Mn followers.
10 Million.
1 Crore people will listen to you and wait for your videos.

Now look at it from the perspective of life.
If you did something relentlessly for 10 years, you can become the top 1% of the world.
And calculating that with the number of years you are going to live, you can become the top 1% of the world in 4-5 things.
Isn’t that a wonderful thing?

The reason we all struggle is because we want everything yesterday.

Live your entire life in a way that you don’t have to become someone else to live it!

Are you living your parents’ life just because you were scared to have ONE brave conversation?

Are you in a relationship because you were scared of being lonely for one year, and now are lonely despite being in a relationship?

Are you with friends who make you feel privileged on having them or are you with friends that help you grow?

It takes courage to live your life.
However, it takes 10X courage and daily self-betrayal to live someone else’s life.

Why would you want to choose that?

Half of our problems are not being able to distinguish between what we should do, want to do and have to do.

I should become an engineer/CA/lawyer/doctor
I want to become an engineer/CA/lawyer/doctor
I have to become an engineer/CA/lawyer/doctor

I should = what we think the world expects from us
I want = what we expect from our ourselves
I have = there is no choice between these two!

Should is a societal norm.
Want is the call of the heart.
Have to is the action out of obligation.

Awareness is having the wisdom to know the difference between the three.

Do you want to do your job or do you have to do your job?
Do you want to live with your parents or should you live with your parents?

Taking action is the next step.
The first one is knowing the real problem.

We struggle to love ourselves because we attach our self worth to what others think of us.
But we don’t control what others think of us.

People will think good of us when they are in a good mood.
People won’t think good of us when they are not in a good mood.

If we attach our self worth to what others think of us, we will always be a prisoner of their mood – which is fickle on changing partners, the content that they consume, and the time (if) they spend nurturing themselves.

Is that what we want to base our self worth on?

We don’t control what others think of us.
Awareness of this thought is the only thing we control.
Which makes it super easy to love ourselves :)

What others think of you is the output. You can never control that.

However, the best part is that your worth is never decided by what others think.

Your worth is what you do.
Your worth is who you are.
Your worth is the intentions you put in.
Your worth is determined by how much you care.
Your worth is what you are willing to say no to, because it isn’t the right thing.

Your worth is determined by You.

The worst way to respond to people who hate you, is to respond.

Haters are happy people who choose to suffer.

They are the kids who cried at the shopping mall with their Mom to hand them over the toy, and yet weren’t given any.

That kid grew up to hate everyone.

They don’t deserve responses.
They deserve no responses.

Silence is love, when the words pick hatred.

Someone asked me 3 reasons why we should travel.

I offered only one.

To break the routine. To not let boredom settle in. To take the time to reflect.

It breaks your chain of repeated thoughts, and pumps up a series of new thoughts, and that’s beautiful.

Only when you mute the mundane, you get a chance to treasure truer thoughts.

Whenever I feel bad, I ask myself this question: Will this matter 3 months from now?

Our emotions are real. So real that they seem permanent.
But they are not.

Once the emotions are gone and we have given ourselves time and space, will what we are going through still matter?