Toxicity

We are with our friends. Yet we feel bad at the end of the conversation.They care for us. Yet something doesn’t feel right. We are there for them in thick and thin.Yet we don’t see them happy when we are. Too often, we are surrounded by beautiful toxicity in the form...

Should I speak up?

In Abilene Paradox, a group decides to do something that no one in the group wants to do because everyone mistakenly assumes they’re the only ones who object to the idea and don’t want to rock the boat by speaking up. Strange how much of our life is driven by simply...

Temporary is good

The worst thing that would change your life forever isn’t the worst thing.  Like every good thing that doesn’t make us excited forever, so do the bad things lose their power over time. Time is not only a great healer, it also makes you aware of better...

Chasing validation

The cool kid will always have opinions of you.The boring kid within you will ache to do anything to get their validation.It is going to be fascinating to leave who you are and be what they are. Except, that isn’t success.If changing yourself could bring you...

Focus, and lack of it

Focus is something we choose for our own selves. For the life that we have chosen. Our career. Focus makes us accountable.  But there is another perk of that focus: The right kind of focus leads us to stop focusing on what others are doing wrong, and start...

The lie we were told as kids

Most of us had a childhood of competing with others.Get more marks than your competitor.Higher rank.Go to a better college than them. These were (and unfortunately still are) the parameters that defined success for us as kids. Except: Everyone is running their own...