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Losing your temper is a sign that you have a long way to go.

Losing your temper is a sign that your remote control is not with you.
Losing your temper is a sign that others get to decide what you will feel.
Losing your temper is a sign that you don’t trust yourself with your peace.

The moment you don’t lose your temper when you ‘should have’ is when you have truly arrived. The rest is just wandering.

It’s hard to do so in a world of instant reactions. Or perhaps it is the easiest thing because no one else does it.

You are not responsible for anyone else’s happiness.
Being responsible for yours is anyway tough.

To stay happy is the most meaningful task. A task that requires effort.

To keep others happy is the most overrated task. Because happiness is a choice you make, not a pill you can pop on anyone giving it to you.

The world will question you despite you trying to keep it happy.
Why not stay happy yourself, and let the world choose – either to continue questioning you or to partake in your happiness?

Whenever I want to do something in the future but it pops to me in the present and takes less than two minutes, I do it right away.

It helps with three things:

• Takes minimal time
• I don’t procrastinate it to the future
• My mind has dopamine kick for the task done

It turns out, it takes simple and small two minute hacks to hack procrastination out of system, if we flex our decision making muscles.

Not 41. Rather 28. Because I genuinely enjoy everything that I do. And am totally committed to the inputs, not the outcome.

When I was 30, I felt my life was over. At the age of 24, I was totally lost. We all feel that way.

However, over time, as you stay committed to the process, anti-aging happens naturally!

Rework. And that is why, my most gifted one as well.

Small chapters. For entrepreneurs. One of the books that I will never trade for another book.

Not all gems get to greater heights, but they do make the ones reading them greater.

Spend time with people who are not like you. You don’t want your world to create a bigger version of you. You want it to create a better version of you.

That happens when beliefs are challenged and debated.

It never helps to stay with your existing beliefs.
What helps is to create new ones.

The bubble you live in will only burst your ego if you keep inflating it.
However, if you explore new bubbles, you will discover you have so much to learn, other than keeping up with your ego.

The key is not to disregard what you see as right.
The key is to pay regard to what others see as right as well.

Destiny is what happens to you. Life is how you choose to react to it.

You failed an exam. Or suffered a job loss. Had a heartbreak.

That’s destiny. You couldn’t control the outcome.

However, you can control what you do from now on.

Do you blame someone else? Wish they could have done something?

Or do you decide to control your actions from now on?

The inputs (i.e., the responses) you put in today will create the outcome from now on. And create your life.

Destiny happened. But what after that? Did you happen to destiny in return, or did you let destiny happen over and over again?

As a leader, you will most likely suffer from what I call ‘the curse of intelligence’ – the desire to solve every problem thrown at you.

Great leaders don’t solve problems.
They ask the right questions.
And the questions solve the problems.

As a leader you most likely know what the solution is.
That’s not the problem.

The problem is, have you tried to understand what the other person is going through?
Perhaps their problem is something you would have never gone through.

It is in such tough times for others that the real task of a leader begins.
More listening, more understanding, more asking questions.
The answers? Your team is smart enough to reach them when you ask the right questions.

The hard thing is not to offer simple answers.
The hard thing is to allow people to look at the problem.

Speak not with the intent to convince, but with the intent to explain.

Listen not with the intent to answer, but with the intent to understand.

Whenever you go through a difficult life situation, the world advises you to move on.

I’d suggest otherwise.

Don’t move on immediately.
Reflect.
Spend time with yourself.
Ask yourself “What is it trying to teach you?”
Get comfortable with what happened.
Take the time to make it a life lesson instead of life tragedy.

And over time, you would have moved on automatically.

The way out of bad things in life isn’t by running away from them. It is rather by staying with them, so that over time and after giving all the lessons they brought, they go themselves and never come back again.

People love to help others. Influencers love to help. People with “outward success” love to help others.

However, when we do not receive help, it may also be because of the fact we were not specific.

“I feel bad.”
“Give me any job.”

OR

“I do not feel seen when X happens…”
“I have done x, y and z at work, and this is how I would be able to do a, b and c for you…”

People would love to help if they are helped on the kind of help they are being sought for – which unfortunately most people don’t do the hard work on. Don’t be most people :)