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I don’t know of anyone who wasn’t hurt emotionally in their childhood.

In a way, it still constricts a lot of us.

However, sometimes being an adult means being a parent to your childhood self, and working towards healing it.
It also means forgiving your parents. For they didn’t know better.

I know it is hard to forgive them for all the troubles you have landed yourself into, over the years.

However, not forgiving them is still giving yourself that permission to blame them.

Forgiving your parents heals them later.
It starts with you.
The only person you must never stop attending to.

In order to gain more respect, 3 things always work:

• Give respect. Intangible things always increase on giving.
• Be less available. Ninja technique :)
• Don’t run after respect from others. Develop it for your own self. Others will follow.

The best measure of a man’s character is not how many people respect them.
The best measure of a man’s character is how sorted they are when none of the people respecting them are around.

1. Schedule your content
2. Plan your content ideas
3. Work in sprints, on a single day – instead of working daily.
4. Delegate work you don’t like, when you can afford it
5. Know that patience and consistency pay off longer and faster results than instant virality.

You attract your friends by who you are.

However, as you evolve into a smarter version of you, you start losing friends.
Because they don’t resonate with you anymore.
Because they are a different human now.
Because you are a different human now.

No one is at the wrong place. However, no one is at the same place either.

Gain is always accompanied by loss. Sometimes you like that loss. Other times you don’t like it, and still have to go through it.

You cannot be smart and yet have a ton of friends. Sad, yet the truth you must know.

I often talk about “3 things” in my Instagram reels.

Today, however, is special.

Where I wish to speak about 3 magical words we all must speak: I trust you!

I trust you with your decision.
I trust you that you would have done your best.
I trust you that you are the custodian of company money, and will use it judiciously.

Most importantly, saying “I trust you” to our own selves lets us know that we have the power to figure things out. And will take care of watching out when things go out of way.

Trust is a scary word. Because most of us grew in absence of it.
However, when we start with trust, 99 out of 100 people eventually end up living to it.
Isn’t that a more beautiful thing than not trusting anyone?

What’s magical often begins as scary. And that’s superpowerful.

1. Your best work does not happen in a whim. It takes hard work. Even if it is your passion.
2. To let others win is the best way to win yourself.
3. You are competing against no one.
4. You can be happy and choose not to slog.
5. Money does save you from picking work you hate!

When any new team member joins my team wariCrew for the first time, here are the most important life lessons they learn:

1. Their job is not to prove anyone wrong. Their job is to do their job right.

2. There is no such thing as “one person” better than other. There is more than enough for everyone to win.

3. You win only when you make your team win. No exceptions.

4. Feedback is there to make you grow. No one is playing conspiracy theories against you.

5. You are trusted from Day 1. Access to a shared team drive. Stipend credit. Our in-house software access. All of them. You only have to screw up badly in order to lose that trust. 

Which one of these was the most surprising to you?

Love is not a can of Coke – that you can have only when it is around.

Love is like a text message – whose emotions you can feel even when the sender is not around.

Being loved only when you are around is not love. It’s convenience.

True love in all relationships stays true even in all false situations.

What makes you fulfilled in a conversation?

Is it showing others where they were wrong?
Or is it walking with them to show that you both could be right together?

It is the easiest to do the first one. Takes zero effort. Instant dopamine kick.

The second one requires to take off the mask of “I am right” and use that as an opportunity to connect with another human being.

Human beings are wrong most of the time. That includes us as well. Most of the time.

To choose to not prove someone else wrong, is the beginning of being right.

Look around you.
Everyone is walking with some goal, some target, some destination in mind.

Finish your education by 22.
Get a job by 25.
Get married by 27.
Have kids by 30.
Buy a house by 35.
Get that fancy car, that vacation, that watch, that phone, that bank balance, that status, that position, that dream thing, by XX.

And you know what happens because of that?

You are constantly under stress.
Not because you can’t hit the target.

It is because you think you will not hit the target BY THAT TIMELINE.

It is NOT the actual goal that creates stress in our life, it is hitting that goal within that timeline that creates stress.