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Imagine going to IIT Delhi on a scooter with your father and NOT qualifying for it.
Imagine coming from USA dropping out from a scholarship, and not knowing what to do next.
Imagine quitting a 30LPA consulting job in 2009 to join a startup, only to be fired from that startup.

I was all of that in my 20s.

What the world calls as failure, I was that.

However, with time, everything falls into place.

That insecurity of not making money.
That guilt of probably letting your parents down.
That fear of never being happy in your career.

Over time, every failure passes away.
If you reflect on it.
And yourself the time.
You have the time.
You are not a failure, my friend.

If I could “make it” in life, anyone can.
Trust me.
And trust yourself.

Ask for help.
Ask for the advice you need.
Ask for the problem that you are stuck with, so that you can finally reach a solution instead of being married to the problem forever.

Help is ingrained in our culture for the longest time. We grow because we help others thrive. Not because we focus on “figuring it out on your own”.

You don’t weaker when you reach out for help.
You rather become stronger because you knew your weak spots and decided to fill them instead of let them destroy you.

As we get older and on our feet, we want to give our parents everything:

• Money
• Nicer clothes
• That international vacation

However, none of that is what they truly need.

What they truly need is our time.
That we sit with them and listen to them.
Listen about what’s going on in their lives.
Be interested in them.
Let them feel heard.
Let them know they matter.

As we make more money, the most important thing we could give to our parents is something no money could buy: our presence.

The output tells you there is something to be done. Everyone does something.

The outcome tells you there is something to be achieved. A result. A feeling. A place that makes you feel that you worked in the right direction, instead of simply doing what was on the manual.

Instructions manuals are great. However, that is what AI is there for – eventually.
The manuals to life, where AI cannot take on the tasks of empathy, understanding and perhaps being curious, is where the best performers achieve their outcomes.

You own the outcome. And you own the success. You own the output. And you wait for someone else to make you successful.

If you truly loved someone, remember how much you:

– Encourage them

– Forgive them

– Act as their support

– Feel happy in their success

– Be there during hard times

– Never judge them

– Nor ever compare them to others

Who is stopping you to be that person for yourself?

If you want to 30X your productivity, here are 3 tips for you:

1. No app notifications except calls

2. No unread banners on any app

3. Time limits for all social media apps with password (set by family and not you).

I apply ALL of this to my life and there is not a single day I am not grateful for keeping my focus on the things that are most important.

What are your 30X productivity hacks?

Why do people come to their jobs, and are happy there?

Is it money?

Is it title?

Is it brand?

What it is that actually drives them?

I believe all the above become redundant over time. What truly makes people happy in their jobs is how they feel, every single day. Nothing else. Not what other people think. Not what others say. Not what is happening in the market. Just how people feel – every single day.

The emotion that you feel is the biggest currency – when every external currency fails.

Know that you need to change.
Know that you need to get fit.
Know that you need to learn to be calmer.
Know that you need to learn to

And then, the change happens.

No change ever happened without realizing that change needs to happen.

In 2023, I will kill my records.
In 2023, I will hit the gym 400 days of the year.
In 2023, I will eat healthy for every meal.
In 2023, I will finally get my startup rolling.

You have time, my friend.
It’s okay to not be in a hurry.

The only thing you need is to be consistent, in whatever consistency you pick.

The results will follow.

Sometimes letting go of a timeline for results is landing into the results at the perfect time.