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I will spend time with my family later.
That email is important.

I will say “I love you” to my loved ones later.
That love for work is more important.

I will call my parents over the weekend.
Grind on the weekdays is more important.

I don’t have the time!

We don’t find time; we make time.
Because we will never know when we will run out of it.

One of the mistakes we make early in our lives is feeling morally obligated to help others.

If we have something that they don’t, maybe we could help.
And when we do offer our help and that still doesn’t help, we feel we must have done something wrong.
Thus starts a vicious cycle of self-blame and self-criticism.

Except that it helps no one.
And certainly makes no one happy.

When we really want to help others, we could start with listening.
Not trying to help, instead just listening.
And being positive.
While we may still not be able to give them “things”, we will still give them the right vibe.

A rather unusual way to help others is to be happy yourself.

Go to college, get your education, and chill for the rest of your life.
The biggest lie that was ever told and sold to us.

Why do we go to college?

To learn something? Not really, everything is accessible online.
To get a degree? We could do it from correspondence.
To run away from parents? Maybe that would never help.

We go to college not to learn things, rather to develop an attitude – an attitude of a student.

Once we know how to be a student, we’ve taken the best thing out of college
We go to college to learn how to become a student whenever we have to!

As a kid, three of us from school decided to speak in English, so that we could get better at it. 

Initially it was embarrassing because what we spoke wasn’t refined.
We were speaking in English when everyone around us spoke in Hindi.

My two other friends gave up on the idea within a week.
I persisted for a year! 

When a lot of people ask me today about my fluency in English, it stems from that one decision. 

One decision to continue speaking English because I wanted to.
One decision to dust myself off, even if it came with being laughed at.

As Naval Ravikant says, “Easy choices, hard life. Hard choices, easy life.”

The way to get the results you want is to persist even when you aren’t getting them now.

Imagine that a ship sank with only 5 surviving out of the 100 that were onboard. 

When asked what happened, how the ship sank, and how the 5 of them managed to survive, we will have just these 5 stories to hear. 

The stories of the 95 dead will never reach us. 

That is called survivorship bias.

Every startup funding round that we hear of in the news are the stories of people who survived. 

Everyone else’s stories – those whose startups couldn’t survive, or startups that are not doing well right now will never reach you.

It will always drug you into believing that only good things happen in startups.

The story you’re hearing is the part of the story who lived to share the story.
It’s just a part.

You’re scared of losing your job.
Or getting out of that relationship.
You fear having the most important conversation with your parents.

However, what is it that you are really scared of?
What drives that fear within you?
What leads to that paralysis?

No one can answer that for us.
Only our introspection would.

If we don’t sit and introspect, we live with that fear forever.
If we do, we get to the real fear, which isn’t as difficult either.

When we know what we are truly afraid of, handling it becomes a simpler task.

As kids, we knew everything.
We already knew how to stop worrying.
No matter what happened, we never worried.

Laughing and going with the flow just came naturally.

If you could do it then, you can definitely do it now – by chipping off all that you aren’t carrying.

However, we were taught something else.

We were taught crying is for losers.
The best way to deal with pain was pretend it never happened.
It was a sin to commit mistakes.

Growing up meant getting into the rat race and “settling”, instead of keeping that kid alive. 

The secret formula is to deal with problems about what we knew as a kid, not how we were taught to deal with them.

One question I get from those working from home is “How do I meet new people and become friends with them?”

Here’s my answer:

By meaningfully engaging with people’s content.
Could also be an influencer.
Commenting just with the intention of giving, nothing else.

Over a period of time, they’ll start noticing you.
They’ll start trusting you for the value you bring on the table. 

You both may not know each other, however, you both know of each other now.
And that paves the way to know each other.

Forming friends online is the same as forming friends offline: engaging without any hidden meaning.

I have a wonderful relationship with time.

A place where 3/4ths of it is spent on “important” tasks.
And that’s a privilege, because time is the most important asset.

However, taking advantage of your time is equally important.

Which means exploring in your 20’s, learning where you have a longing for, and doing everything you wish to do – for no other reason, just to know who you are.

Having a great relationship with time, and letting that relationship unfold.
Having great micro commitments, with a macro view of life. 

Making everything of today, with the intent of perhaps exploring yourself tomorrow.

Doing important tasks in your time is great; it’s not time wasted.
However, not living your life and doing just one thing forever is a life wasted.

You’re earning good money.
You have access to expensive restaurants.
Even people see how far you have come.

There is one problem though: You are not happy!.

You hate what you do, but don’t have the courage to do what you love. 

What if you spoke to that one person who would be the most affected by your decision to do what you love?

What if you spoke to that one person who would be the most let down if you didn’t succeed in the eyes of the world?

What if you told them that their support is the only and most important thing you need to live a full life?

It would be hard, but not as hard as the current life you’ve succumbed yourself to.

We don’t work on our dreams because we dread we might become the nightmare of someone we love the most.