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Our parents want us to choose a risk-free path of life. 

Engineering, CA, lawyer, doctor. 

Stability was something they craved for.
Stability is something they wish for us as well.

However, we have a different take on life. 

Rightly so, because we have way more exposure, opportunities and options than they had.

And most of us want to go against our parents’ wishes and choose the path of risk and see how things unfold.

As we have these conversations with our parents, they may understand our PoV.
Or they may not. 

However, there’s one thing that we ought to communicate to them: 

Us disobeying them does not mean we are disrespecting them.

Most important things in life that need to be said are unsaid. 

To go for the career of your choice. It’s risky. 

To choose your happiness over society’s validation. It’s risky.

To leave the comfort and chart for new territories. It’s risky.

Of course it is risky.
But isn’t not taking that risk a bigger risk?

Your biggest enemy is not your competitor.
Or a newbie changing the world.
Or a viral trend you missed.

These are parts of life.

Your biggest enemy is someone who tells you that it is impossible for you to think beyond what lies in front of you. 

They make you think small because they want you to be, even if unintentionally.
You cannot move further.

It could even be your closest friends, family, or yourself.

Anyone who tells this to you is the one you should move further away from.

Society has categorised a profit-making entrepreneur as successful and the one who does not as failure.

However, that is the definition of society.
Something that is rarely correct.

True success is having the courage to build something from scratch.
True success is getting out of your own self to solve a problem.
True success is living by your own stories of success and not the ones the world has imposed on us since childhood.

There’s no such thing as failure. 

The very act of going for entrepreneurship by leaving the life of comfort is in itself the biggest success.

Happiness is our nature as kids. 

If we enjoy something, we are in a state of flow doing it.
If we don’t, we’ll cry our hearts out to make sure we don’t do it.

And then, we grow up.
Unfortunately.
And forget to make our happiness a priority. 

We pursue courses that our family wants, marry someone because we’ve been told to, and end up living a life that is totally apart from how we would be happy living it.

In the pursuit of trying to make others happy and giving up our own, we realise we aren’t happy either. 

So, choosing our happiness is the safest option to ensure not only ours, rather ,everyone else’s happiness.

How do we know if we are happy doing something?
By asking two fundamental questions:

a. What about it makes me happy?
b. Am I truly happy doing it?

It turns out the happiest thing we could do to our happiness is live with it forever.
That’s the most difficult yet the easiest thing to sign up for.

We chase goals, work hard towards them, and when we finally achieve them, we still feel incomplete. 

Why does that happen?

Because we tie our happiness to a place. 

Showing people that you can.
Proving them wrong.
Making sure you have their respect. 

It all becomes a journey where we couldn’t care less about the journey, because we have all our eyes on the destination. 

Except it makes us more drained out in the end.

I had a student come over my Instagram Live, who had been practising magic tricks for 6 years now, and baffled me with a few of his tricks on the show. 

He does not plan to make it full time, nor does he plan to monetise it. 

But just the fact of getting up each day and having something to progress to, has kept him through the troughs and valleys. 

Daily progress = daily happiness minus conditions attached.

Chasing daily progress is the ultimate antidote to the emptiness of chasing goals.

If given a chance to trade anything of the wealthiest people, what is the right thing to trade?

Their money? Status? Network? Hard work? Life Lessons?

The best thing to trade for is their curiosity.

What do they think about the most?
What is the pattern of their thinking?
What are their mental models?

Curiosity can make us figure out a way to make a motor car in a world where everyone wants a faster horse cart. 

Lack of it can make us believe we are meant for slow commutes forever.

Having wealth of the wealthy is like eating fish.
Having their curiosity is learning to fish. 

Our parents are the people we disagree with the most.

We have differing opinions on the smallest life issues to making big life decisions.

And that’s okay. 

Our parents need a different thing from us: Our presence.

When they were our age, they witnessed tremendous hard work, lack of opportunities, and struggle to make ends meet. 

Life hasn’t been easy for them.
But we can make it a bit easy, by being there for them – making them talk about their favourite topics (our childhood, their childhood), listening to them, or simply engaging with them.

People we love the most and vice versa need only love from us.

I’ll be happy when I find my partner.

I’ll be happy when my parents understand me.

I’ll be happy when my efforts are applauded.

I’ll be happy “when”…

When we attach a “when” to happiness, we make it conditional. 

Someone else has to take the responsibility to do something that will make us happy.
That’s a huge onus to place on those who aren’t even aware they are carrying a heavy load.

The safer and more convenient option is to own our happiness. 

To be able to control our factors and definition of happiness.
To be happy alone.

Happiness in relationships is not contingent. 

Happiness is a relationship with ourselves.
When we have that relationship right, we become happier in all other relationships.

“I don’t know what to do with my life.”

We happen to tell this to ourselves early in our lives, especially when we see people younger than us becoming successful YouTubers, rocking on Reels or becoming child prodigies – and our wanderings make us wonder if we will ever “make it” in life.

However, there’s only one kind of people that do not make it, if ever: Those who do not move.

For the rest of us, for those who keep exploring, for those who keep looking, and for those who are never satisfied with settling, we will somehow figure out what to do with our lives.

Success is in exploring, and not setting with your own mindset that doesn’t let us nurture.