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Do you feel bad upon receiving feedback?

“Maybe my your boss doesn’t like me.”
“Maybe she doesn’t think highly of me.”
“Maybe I am just not good enough.” 

We discourage ourselves with all these thoughts in our head.

What if we took feedback as an opinion, instead of a fact?

What if we you learned from it instead of judging ourselves?

Because that will decide how well we grow.
The words we keep repeating to ourselves will end up becoming our truth.

Feedback isn’t about you, the doer.
It’s about the deed.
The deed, which the doer always has a chance to make better. 

Are you afraid of making decisions?
What to wear, what to eat, career choices, who to marry, whether to marry – small to the biggest decisions, are you afraid of making them?

The truth is we are afraid of making decisions because we are afraid that they might turn out to be bad decisions. 

We’re afraid of bearing the brunt of wrong decisions, overlooking the fact that even if they turn out to be wrong, we would’ve learnt a lesson.
It won’t entirely be a loss.

The biggest loss is not making a decision and staying stagnant.
If you don’t move, you would’ve already made the wrong decision.

I recall during my first job, unable to understand why things functioned in a certain way, I asked my boss, 

“How is it that some people have so much work and some hardly have any work?”

“Good people pay a far higher price for being good, than bad people pay for being bad.”

That has stayed with me forever.

If you are good with your work, you will get more work. You will get more responsibilities. There is a lot more than will be expected from you. And that is going to be hard.

Being good isn’t easy, however worth striving for.
Because being the opposite isn’t worth it.

Whom should you trust?
Who deserves to have it?
Who doesn’t?

Trust may a big thing, because maybe you’ve been betrayed.
Maybe your you heart’s been broken.
You trusted someone and they let you down.

However, is trust only about the other person?
Isn’t it a measure of how much are we willing to invest in a relationship?

Whenever I ask myself this question, the answer I get is: I should trust people.
I should trust them not because they are trustworthy, instead so that they become trustworthy. 

Trusting is not only about who they are.
It’s also about who they could become when they have your trust.

Sara Blakely is a tremendously successful businesswoman. 

Someone asked, what do you attribute your success to?

“Every night at the dinner table, my father would ask my brother and me, ‘What did you fail at, today?’”

Did you fail today?

Did you get knocked down and bruised today?

Did you face rejection today?

Sara had it ingrained in her mind that it’s okay to fail.
What was not okay was to live with that failure.

Treat failure as a part of life, and it will turn success into a habit. 

When do we grow old?

Is it simply upon hitting a certain number?

Or perhaps before that?

We grow old when we think the way we see the world is the right one.

When we believe it is our point of view that matters, and it need not be changed.

When we refuse to see another way to live life, because it will challenge our comfort zone. 

We grow old when we refuse to embrace the new.

What did you do today?

Learned something?

Met someone interesting?

Took notes and executed upon your ideas?

Or watched Netflix, ate junk food and slept a little more.

And what will you do tomorrow?

Day after?

Quicker than you know, the days turn into weeks, weeks into months, months into years.

Quicker than you know, your present turns into your future.

By the choices you made today.

The best way to predict your future, is to look at your day today

We all have flaws.

We’ve all made mistakes.

Done things that aren’t a badge of honor.

But the hard question is:
How to correct them?

What if we stopped looking for them in everyone else?
What if we just corrected just this one flaw? 

Because it really necessarily about their flaws.
It is certainly about how we compound their flaws in our minds.

To correct our flaws, stop looking for them in others. 

A tweet yesterday said that entrepreneurs are patient and impatient at the same time.

And that resonated with me. I agree with it. And also believe that the patience impatience directed at the right things works wonders. And if misdirected can backfire.

Impatience with finding the truth will work.

Impatience with people won’t.

Impatience with fixing the errors will work.

Impatience with getting results won’t.

Patience with customers will work.

Patience with the version you want to sell won’t.

Patience with spending money will work.

Patience with wasting money won’t.

Entrepreneurs: Impatient with action. Patient with results.