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Words. Wisdom. Winners.
Don’t take my advice on this…
We often seek advice when we have multiple options in front of us.
And we are unsure of which option to pick!
There begins our journey of finding the right answer.
We look for people who have taken similar decisions before, hoping that we will get an answer!
However, there’s one thing that we often forget in the process.
Their experiences are not ours.
Their advice will be based on the outcome of their decisions.
Which could be driven by the advice of someone else – that’s even worse!
I would rather follow my gut.
If I will ask myself honestly, I will get the answer – an answer which would be way better than anyone else’s!
PS: Don’t take my advice on this – build yours :)
Are you feeling stuck?
I often say consistency is the biggest determinant of success.
And if you measure your progress when you are consistently working towards something, you’ll be able to move forward!
And yet, sometimes we still feel stuck.
We don’t know how to keep going!
Here are the 4 stages that you go through in whatever is it that you start with:
- You have to be told what to do.
- You know what to do.
- You do it.
- You do it well.
If you know where you are currently, you’ll know where to go next.
If you’re feeling stuck, which stage is it?
I wish I would have….
Every time when we think, “I wish I would have done that differently”, we are thinking about something we can’t change.
What’s done has been done.
No amount of thinking will change that.
No amount of regret will change that.
What we can change is what we do next.
So, here are better questions to ask.
“What stopped me from doing whatever it is that I should have done?”
“Do those things still exist in my life?”
“What was it that I did not know back then?”
“Do I know it now?”
Everyone makes mistakes. But not everyone learns from those mistakes.
Something exists between all the rights and wrongs. And that something is called reflection!
You’re wrong….
What do we say when we are disappointed in someone?
“This isn’t what I wanted.”
“Why don’t you work hard?”
“Why didn’t you work longer?”
“Couldn’t you be more diligent?”
Has it worked? Does it work?
I am sure, we all know the answer to it.
Let’s try a different approach.
“I trusted you. You’ve let me down!”
People always know they are wrong.
Pointing that out doesn’t make much of a difference.
But if you let them know how you never expected them to be wrong, they won’t be wrong anymore!
When you spend too much time with someone…
A movie that you fell completely in love with the first time you watched it?
It was Dark Knight for me!
The script, the music, the characters – everything was on point and it blew my mind away!
I loved it so much, that I watched it again. And again. And again!
By the time I was watching it for the 6th or 7th time, I started noticing its flaws.
I had spent so much time with it, that I couldn’t help but notice its slips.
Yet, it remains my all-time favorite movie.
I chose to ignore the slips because what I experienced when I saw the movie was way too wonderful an experience!
What else works like movies?
People!
The more time you spend with people, the more flaws you see!
Instead, why not shift the focus on how you feel when you are with them?
If you’re feeling lost….!
What’s the one thing you would want, if you are lost somewhere?
Most of us will have the same reply.
We’d need a map.
Except, a map would not help because you are lost and you don’t know where you are on the map.
The same is true for life.
When we are lost, we crave for a map.
We crave for directions – a diagram of which road leads to where.
What we don’t realize is, we don’t even know where we are.
What might help?
Retracing our steps!
Going back where we have come from, to a point where we aren’t lost anymore!
Reminding ourselves, what kept us going!
And reminding ourselves, why we started!
Because no matter how lost we are, we always know where we come from.
How do you really learn?
How many college lectures do I remember?
Not many!
If you ask me anything from those classes, how much would I be able to reproduce?
Not much!
It’s because the best learning comes from what happens outside the class.
It comes when no one is teaching. It comes by listening and by observing!
It’s not what they teach you that matters. What matters is, what you learn instead!
What’s the most dangerous statement in the world?
“But I have already spent so much time on this. How can I leave it all?”
This statement when thought out loud ignores everything.
It ignores signals, it ignores intuition, it ignores advice and it ignores the truth.
Think about it.
Does it really matter how much time has gone into it, when you know it isn’t working?
Does it really matter how long you have been doing something when you know it needs to change?
No change has ever happened without realizing that change needs to happen.
But once you realize it, would you really want your past to determine your future?
Time = Energy
When you say you do not have time, what you are essentially saying is that you do not have the energy.
Physical energy
Do you take care of your body? Do you eat healthily? Do you have a night of quality sleep?
Emotional energy
Do you believe in yourself? Do you talk positively to your own self?
Mental energy
Are you optimistic? Are you feeding your creativity?
Spiritual energy
Are you honest? Do you live a life of integrity and commitment?
One’s desire to manage time is one’s attempt to manage their energy.
How to take difficult decisions in life?
The best mental model for taking tough decisions in life.
Ask yourself, “What’s the worst thing that can happen?”
Then close your eyes and imagine it happening.
Ask yourself another question, “Will I be okay mentally, socially, financially, physically, emotionally?”
If the answer is yes, go for it!
It’s crazy how much of our time goes towards taking the right decision when no one knows what the right decision is!
Why not spend that time and effort into finding the courage within?
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