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It’s not hard to get on to a stage and speak.
It’s not hard to open your phone, hit record, and post a reel.
It’s not hard to write a cold email to someone in power.

We feel they are hard things, because that is how we have convinced ourselves.

That is how we have convinced ourselves.

The hardest thing in the world is to convince ourselves.
The world will, by default, follow.

A friend of yours got married at “the right time”.
Another one got settled abroad.
The neighbour spends weekends relaxing and weekdays grinding. 

The world is out there chasing the obvious things.
Settling down quickly. 

However, if we chase what everyone else is chasing we will end up with what everyone else does.
Chasing something that does not excite us ends up with a life that does not excite us.
Chasing something because there is no other option visible ends up with no other options visible.

The obvious way to beat the resistance is to resist the obvious.

How will we ever know what we could if we are always entangled with what the world does?

Trends are cool.
Around pop culture, news, sports, fashion, work habits. 

They make us feel like we belong – we laugh with them, engage with them, show off with them, follow them. 

However, the very nature of trends is that they will vanish.
Very soon.

What stays behind is what really matters – timeless content from time to time.

The best way to not be a trend is to ask what is likely to never change.
And follow that. 

“I don’t have the time.”
This self-sabotaging statement drifts people from acting on their dream projects.

The universal truth is everyone has the same twenty-four hours.

What we do during that window makes or does not make a difference.

Searching for more time is essentially searching for more energy.
When we figure out how to have more energy we’ll be left with even more time!

We don’t need more time.
We just need more self awareness to pursue things that give us energy.

Chasing worldly success is illusive.
What looks like success to us doesn’t match with others.

Setting our own standards of success, irrespective of the noises is real success.

Staying true to those standards is getting truly successful.

Everyone has their own metric of success.
The same applies to us as well.

An unexpected hack to create opportunities:
Read all your emails.

It will tell you what businesses are upto. What is being sold, what is being promoted, what is being spoken about, what is creating the news. 

It will tell you what your friends are upto. What are their questions? In their Life. And for you. 

Reading doesn’t mean chewing, understanding and remembering it.
It just means scrolling, and diving further if needed.

Great opportunities don’t come with the subject line: Great opportunity.
They occasionally show up in emails!

Comfort is a trap.
Getting out of that trap is real success.

How to know if we are challenging our comfort zone?

By asking ourselves the question:
“Is there a high probability of success when we do something?”

If yes, we are getting comfortable.
If not, we are on the right track of challenging ourselves.

Consistently going towards things where success is less probable and if it still comes in, we are successfully breaking the bubble of comfort zone.

It’s a wonderful goal to lose 10kgs in 3 months.
Or to make sure you get promoted this year.
Or to find the love of your life within a year.

However we don’t have a basis for setting that goal..
And if we don’t reach the goal, we call ourselves a failure.

An alternate then is to not set goals.
Instead, take some action daily.

I will workout daily
I will gather feedback on all my projects, even if they might not be positive..
I will be genuinely interested in people and say hi to every new person I meet..

Over time, the need for action will be replaced by addiction to action.

Goals can make you look like a winner or a loser.
Habits only have winners! 

A great way to ace video interviews is to have a customised background.
The background is a function of whom you are interacting with.

If the interviewer is a risk-taker, let the background define yourself that way.
If the interviewer is risk-averse, let the background be modest while defining who you are.

It will require research.
It will require you know the interviewer fully well, before meeting them.
It would require you to make efforts to go beyond a one size fits all background.

Don’t personalise it. Make it personal.
– Seth Godin

Free time is something we all should make room for, in our days.
Not on days when there are less items to cross.
Rather every day, even on the busiest ones.

Read books.
Practise a skill you are inclined towards.
Or just do nothing and be alone.

It is not time wasted.
Rather if we do not make free time, the “productive” time would be longer, hazy and even confusing. 

Most of life is to maximize our free time.