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This New Year, here are three things you must NOT do:

1. Don’t set goals. Set habits. Habits make you the kind of person you intend to be. Goals make you feel bad after they are achieved.
2. Don’t beat yourself up. If you are holding yourself responsible and accountable, the last thing you should do to yourself is beat yourself up.
3. Don’t compare yourself to anyone else. No one started same. You have your own journey. Finding joy in it, is the most powerful step to growing in this, and every year.

Here’s to a rocking 2022!

The biggest lie ever sold.

Something is NOT better than nothing.

Because when you are caught up in the chase of something that is worthless according to you making yourself miserable, you do not get the space to reflect, move forward, and decide the path you want to tread on next.

Sometimes, nothing is better than something.
That is when we figure out our next big thing.

Most of lessons learnt in life are not sought proactively.
They’re rather happening to us all of the time.
If we are reflective enough to listen.

Every life is a platform, Marianne Williamson says.
What happens on that platform is unique to us.
How we respond to what happens to us on that platform is the platform we choose to build for our tomorrow.

Thus, no matter where we are, we always have the choice to build our platform.
Should we care enough to be aware that we have the choice :)

Because I have made terrible mistakes.
Because I was clueless when I made those mistakes.
Because I never knew if life would ever get better again.
Because those make me real – that I am not a know-it-all guy, rather someone who is work in progress.
Because we all are shaped more by what we thought would work out and it tanked badly – and gave us shock instead of surprises.

I share my failures, so that you get to reflect on your own, and do not get deluded that “successful” people don’t have any.

Death isn’t the tragedy. Not embracing life when being alive, is.

Death isn’t a tragedy. Not living your dreams when alive, is.

Death isn’t a tragedy. Not killing your inner demons when alive, is.

Death isn’t a tragedy. Killing your best work because you were too scared to put it out, is.

Death isn’t a tragedy. Being someone who fears death and doesn’t live because of that, is.

The biggest tragedy of life is not death. The biggest tragedy of life is not living fearing death, which means you die daily and hardly live. The biggest tragedy of life is lack of life.

Either a year goes so well that you get a ton to rejoice.

Or that year takes away something from us in a manner that makes us reflect on what’s truly important.

Both ways, the end of a year is the reminisce of enjoying, or nudging toward joy.
Because who we would be, if it were not for joy?

How to get scholarship if I didn’t get good grades?
Performing wonderfully in entrance exams

How do I make money if I am not good in studies?
By working on what you like doing, by exploring different paths.

How do I keep my parents happy if they are not happy with my life decision?
By making myself happy. That will make them happy.

The answers to most “how-to’s” in life exist. The question is, if we care enough to ask.

The 3 values we care about as parents:

1. Respect everyone, irrespective of how they look, speak, how much they earn, etc.

2. Take responsibility for your actions. No one owes you anything.

3. Give it your best. Always. Success may not be in your control. The input always is!

Values are the inputs we nurture. Keep them nurturing long enough, and sooner than you know, they have grown into individuals that make you superproud!

I have made multiple mistakes in my life.
And learned from them a lot.

But what I know for sure is others have made a plenty.
And they have written those in their books.

While it is important for me to share mine, it is also important for me to learn from theirs.

Sharing my mistakes makes others wiser.
Learning from others’ mistakes makes me wiser without committing them.

Since I am a long student of habits, I also make happiness into a habit :)

Here is how:
Take a fish bowl. Or a jar.
Every night before sleeping, on a piece of paper, write one thing you are grateful for.
One day at a time.
10 seconds at a time.
A habit of lifelong happiness!

The most beautiful habits usually require the least effort. But they do require efforts!