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You are running, you are lifting, you are cycling.

And it feels like the pain will kill you.

But it doesn’t.
It goes away.
The pain goes away.
The pain goes away.
In a second, a minute, an hour, in a day, in weeks or months.
It goes away.

But the pain of not trying stays.
The pain of not even giving a shot, keeps on giving shots all of the time.

1. Making decisions based on data

2. Being suggestive instead of being prescriptive

3. Letting my team make their mistakes, instead of micromanaging them

The decade of your 20’s will be when you will be judged the most.

Your college. Your job. Your car, your phone, your clothes, your choices.

Remember that people judge because they want to feel good about themselves.

It has nothing to do with you.
It is their insecurity. 

The biggest irony of life is that the more we value things outside of our control, the less control we will have in life.

You cannot control what people think of you. You can always control doing the right things, the right way.

You cannot control if you would be able to impress people. You can always control how to impress yourself.

You can never control how people respond to your content. You can always control how you can make it better.

What most people value, unfortunately, is what responses they get.
What is valuable, fortunately, is what inputs we put in.

The truth of life is that 10,000 things will go wrong.

The beauty of life is that you just need 1 thing to go right.

 Of course, a lot of things will go wrong.

However, how will you discover the 1 thing that will work, if you do not put in the reps of the multiple things that don’t?

Success is a probabilities game. Which increases as you put in the repetitions.
Failure is also a probabilities game. Which increases with every repetition you choose not to put.

Whenever I have a tinge of thought stating what would people say, I bring myself down to the basic fundamental thought:

“Log kya sochenge?”

Agar yeh bhi tum sochne lago ge

To log kya sochoge?

It turns out, what people think is their responsibility to think. When we think of what they are thinking, we are letting go of our responsibility to think for ourselves, and take on the unsolicited responsibility of others. Not the best thing for anyone :)

Once we are out of school and college we spend the rest of our lives trying to undo what school and college did to us.

School teaches us memorising paras. Life wants us to understand things.
School prescribes a conventional career path. Life shows us most success is created unconventionally.
School wants us to follow commands. Life wants us to be curious. And break some norms.

The best thing to know about school and college is to know that life is our biggest school, which only begins once the formal school and college gets over.

The purpose of writing a blog is different from the purpose of writing a landing page.

The purpose of having a 1:1 is different from having a review.

The purpose of building a community is different from starting with the intention to sell.

None is wrong. They are just different. So is their foundation and composition going to be different.

When we understand the differences between seemingly similar things and act with that empathy, is when our work starts truly making a difference.

You are responsible for professional growth of your team. Whereas family, you accept them unconditionally.

You must give constructive feedback to your team. Whereas you love your family despite their flaws.

You may perhaps have to even fire a team member and bring a new one, if they are not growing. If you treat them as a family, you deny them the growth they deserve because you are now bound to keep them happy. Not a good thing either for your team nor for you.

The best thing you could do to your team’s growth, is not treat them like family.

The smartest learn from everything and everyone.
The smart ones from their experiences.
The stupid already have all the answers.

The smartest people live their lives like a stupid – looking for answers, finding life lessons in experiences of others, and never settling their curiosity down.

The ones who do not purposefully go on to become the smartest learn from whatever life throws at them. It’s external. Not conscious.

The ones who think who already know everything, are the ones whom you ought not to become.

We choose who we are, by what we fervently look for. And what we don’t.