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Either a year goes so well that you get a ton to rejoice.

Or that year takes away something from us in a manner that makes us reflect on what’s truly important.

Both ways, the end of a year is the reminisce of enjoying, or nudging toward joy.
Because who we would be, if it were not for joy?

How to get scholarship if I didn’t get good grades?
Performing wonderfully in entrance exams

How do I make money if I am not good in studies?
By working on what you like doing, by exploring different paths.

How do I keep my parents happy if they are not happy with my life decision?
By making myself happy. That will make them happy.

The answers to most “how-to’s” in life exist. The question is, if we care enough to ask.

The 3 values we care about as parents:

1. Respect everyone, irrespective of how they look, speak, how much they earn, etc.

2. Take responsibility for your actions. No one owes you anything.

3. Give it your best. Always. Success may not be in your control. The input always is!

Values are the inputs we nurture. Keep them nurturing long enough, and sooner than you know, they have grown into individuals that make you superproud!

I have made multiple mistakes in my life.
And learned from them a lot.

But what I know for sure is others have made a plenty.
And they have written those in their books.

While it is important for me to share mine, it is also important for me to learn from theirs.

Sharing my mistakes makes others wiser.
Learning from others’ mistakes makes me wiser without committing them.

Since I am a long student of habits, I also make happiness into a habit :)

Here is how:
Take a fish bowl. Or a jar.
Every night before sleeping, on a piece of paper, write one thing you are grateful for.
One day at a time.
10 seconds at a time.
A habit of lifelong happiness!

The most beautiful habits usually require the least effort. But they do require efforts!

Success is absent unless failure is present.

That doesn’t mean you are going to succeed each time you fail.

Between failure and success, there is one important step that most people miss, because of which they do not reach the step of success: Reflection.

Reflecting on what did the failure teach us.
Reflecting on how did the failure use my weakness.
Reflecting on how we can use our strengths the next time.
Reflecting on what is the best thing that came out of this failure.
Reflecting on how you became a better person in enduring this failure.

You don’t choose failure. But what you choose after failure, reflects if you will be successful or not.

The pandemic took a lot away from us – mentally, emotionally, health, relationships, even money.

That’s unfortunate.

However, I believe it also gave us a huge gift: of our own company. Which we needed the most.

For everything that comes to break you, comes with a gift to meet yourself on the other side.

No, you wouldn’t get the Buddha answer (though it is true :D).

The root cause of our suffering is that we want all our desires, wants and goals to be fulfilled yesterday.
We want timelines to be ticked because we want our wants to be met.

When they don’t, we suffer.
Call ourselves inadequate.
And even doubt our capabilities.

Instead of putting a timeline to our goals, putting a timely adherence to putting in the work (even when we don’t feel like), is what will make us own everything we could. And that’s beautiful.

I recently ran a fun game with my team, asking them to submit a google form to make a wish or two.

Not that all wishes were fulfilled (immediately), but that shows a lot about us as humans, and our beliefs about what could make us happy.

The range was awesome, from Rs. 600 to Rs. 1.5 lacs, from experiences to goods, and even making a wish for others!

While we were going through this, I told my team an important insight:
Put a number to the amount you think is going to make you happy. And then you will realise how easily it is within your reach!

Numbers work wonders. Especially when you put them out from the desires to the draft.

The question you ask yourself daily before going for a job you hate.

If you are asking the question daily, you already know the answer!