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I get 300+ emails every day. I respond to less than 5% of them.
What kind of emails get the response?

1. People who are persistent: The ones who keep asking – who go beyond their ego, because silence means there is still a possibility.
2. Their ability to go deep into who they wish to be and why: Their email is not a template sent to multiple people. They are self-aware, and also aware of how I specifically could help them.
3. Instead of reaching out directly, they reached out through someone who knows me already – works like a charm!

The single biggest impact on how the world functions is because of how parents function as parents!

Kids look up to their parents to show them how the world functions.

Do parents scold them often?
Or do they ask questions?

Do parents instruct their kids?
Or are they provocative?

Do parents spend time with their kids?
Or are they always ‘busy with important stuff’?

Raising a kid is as important as nurturing a nation.
Because how a kid is raised is how a nation gets nurtured.

If you have been a recipient of what you didn’t deserve, it is a good time for you to change how your world functions today.

Sometimes being your own parent is the only way to have the parents you wanted.

If your school friends keep dragging you down and pulling you back and make you feel bad about ‘growing too fast’, fire them!

You grow up.
And pick a path that your friends don’t want.
They want to stay where they are.
They want to be comfortable.
You don’t want to. It’s okay!
You are doing NOTHING wrong.

It’s not being a culprit. Nor is it being selfish.
It is simply being aware. And respecting yourself.

If your friends don’t get to see that, perhaps it’s time you get to see that they aren’t friends any more. Don’t feel guilty for not wanting them in your life.

Over-indexing on intelligence is one of the biggest mistakes I made while hiring as a founder.

Smart people are so used to being smart that they keep solving problems. Moving from one to another.

Start-ups equally require people who persist.

Who’d love to do just one thing

Listening to someone without judgement is the most precious gift you can give to that person.

No one else could walk your path.
When you accept this, you turn off your blinders.
And listen to the person talking to you, instead of figuring out how to give them solutions.

Everyone knows their solutions.
What people are looking for is validation.

Validation comes from not judging what they say.
Which is the last thing we do. And the first thing we must do.

Risk and failure are a state of mind.
There are no measurement scales for them.
We create them.
So, we can destroy them too.
We are not naturally trained to love ourselves.
Learning how to do so is this journey called life.

Is reaching a certain goal the only measure of success?
What about the life lessons learnt?
How about the struggles endured?
What about the person you become in this journey of ‘risks and failures’?

Learning to love yourself, irrespective of the result, is true success.
That’s true risk.

Giving up on yourself is the ultimate failure.

Everything else, including the numbers, is secondary.
Training yourself to love yourself is the powerful primary process.

No one owes you their time and money. And you don’t owe anyone either.

It’s the mark of a cool human to understand people’s respect for their time and money.
It’s the mark of a wise human to respect their own.

This makes us not feel guilty for saying no.
This also makes us understand when someone says no to us.

It’s the mark of a wisely easy human to know that it’s okay to not owe your time and money to anyone and be absolutely (untouched) okay with it.

Losing your temper is a sign that you have a long way to go.

Losing your temper is a sign that your remote control is not with you.
Losing your temper is a sign that others get to decide what you will feel.
Losing your temper is a sign that you don’t trust yourself with your peace.

The moment you don’t lose your temper when you ‘should have’ is when you have truly arrived. The rest is just wandering.

It’s hard to do so in a world of instant reactions. Or perhaps it is the easiest thing because no one else does it.

You are not responsible for anyone else’s happiness.
Being responsible for yours is anyway tough.

To stay happy is the most meaningful task. A task that requires effort.

To keep others happy is the most overrated task. Because happiness is a choice you make, not a pill you can pop on anyone giving it to you.

The world will question you despite you trying to keep it happy.
Why not stay happy yourself, and let the world choose – either to continue questioning you or to partake in your happiness?

Whenever I want to do something in the future but it pops to me in the present and takes less than two minutes, I do it right away.

It helps with three things:

• Takes minimal time
• I don’t procrastinate it to the future
• My mind has dopamine kick for the task done

It turns out, it takes simple and small two minute hacks to hack procrastination out of system, if we flex our decision making muscles.