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Whenever we are studying data, our default habit is to go to what’s working best.

However, this makes us miss a very important metric:

Is what causing the best performance also responsible for the worst performance? Does this mean there is an unseen factor that is driving the best and the worst?

If the inverse is also true, perhaps it is a good time to question what is actually true.

The audience is where I get my content ideas from.

What are the questions they are asking?
What is something that is basic to me but not for my audience?
How can I think like my 18-24 year old audience and not like my peers?
How can I simplify something that is valuable for them, yet is too complex to understand?
What tweets of mine are nudging people to ask me to create a video on those?

The ones who consume the content, are the ones who give you the ideas of what’s next. Only if you, the creator, are listening.

I am someone who is an entrepreneur for 12+ years.
However, I do not despise those in jobs. As a matter of fact, I have met the most driven, curious, and committed people who enjoy their jobs.

I usually work even when on vacations.
Some people disconnect, 100%.

I lift weights after playing tennis each day, for half an hour.
For some, they have cardio and strength training on different days.

People are different. And with different perspectives. And that is what makes us unique.
Doesn’t make me better. Doesn’t make me worse. Just lets me use my strengths, to play my best game.

In order to win your game, you ought to play your own game. And that’s enough.

No one takes me seriously.
No one listens to what I say.
People are making fun of me.

A lot of us have this inherent desire, to be liked by people.

However, here is a sure-shot formula to be taken seriously:
– To not take yourself seriously
– To listen to your own self when others don’t listen to you
– To make fun of yourself before someone else makes fun of you.

When you are filled with self-awareness, you won’t need anyone else to fill yourself up.
It is the lack of self awareness and too much attachment to our existence, that we fail to look beyond that and enjoy what’s actually going on.

Three things I never do:

1. No series – require a lot of commitment
2. No news – they amplify the 0.000001% of the bad, ignoring the remaining good
3. No abusive words – once spoke in school, PT teacher gave an example that made me think, and that was the last time I abused.

It turns out, what you don’t do has a lot impact on what you end up doing, and picking that, is a wise choice you got to make daily, clinically, purposefully.

• Mango
• Excel
• My schedule

And, smallcase :)

One reel a day.
One blog post a day.
Three YouTube videos a week.
Two memes a week.
One podcast a week.
Five Instagram videos a week.
One Instagram Live a week.
One Instagram AMA a week.
One Twitter thread a week.
Fourteen content pieces on LinkedIn a week.

Me and my team keep doing that clinically, every single week. Without worrying about the outcome.

Because when you get the inputs right even when you don’t feel like, you get the outputs 10X right, even when you don’t expect like.

We all work really hard on all our relationships.

• Trying to show them we care
• Trying to make sure they don’t get hurt
• Trying super hard that they don’t misunderstand us.

In my opinion, we don’t need to try as much hard.

Simply knowing, that fixing your relationship with yourself will fix every other relationship, is the best place to start.

Skills we don’t think are skills but are most important skills:

• Being calm
• Really listening, with the intent to understand, not respond
• Learning to be aware of our emotions
• To forgive without receiving an apology
• To be a student forever

What’s yours?

It is easy to believe they do not have the best intents.
Or they are trying to get out of their work.

Maybe that’s true. Maybe it’s not. Maybe they just need some space.

What I have learnt in 12+ years of building teams, is that if someone is acting out as an anomaly, they always have a reason that needs to be addressed to. They may need their time, space and perhaps nothing beyond transactional conversations.

Sometimes letting some things be is the way to letting things brew.