We fear failure

We all fear failure. Most often, we aren’t afraid of failure because of the expectations we have from ourselves. It is what others will think of us when we fail, which is what we fear.  However, how will we ever learn to fly if we continue to live for the validation...

Do values help?

How do we operate when no one is watching? What’s a complete no-no, even if it is an immediate gain for us? Do we want others to win, or is it just a sole game in a team? Values aren’t something that we just write and let it be there. Values are who we are, something...

How others help us unintentionally

Managing our time, having a great attitude and unlearning and learning every day is wonderful. However, what makes us indispensable is how we manage people (including ourselves). Everyone is from different upbringing, different belief systems and a different approach...

Words, words are all we have

I often talk about the fact that we are the stories we tell ourselves.There is, however, a corollary to that. A king returned to his palace one fine morning after his morning walk in the jungle. Upon reaching the palace, he discovered that his horse was lost. He...

Should I speak up?

In Abilene Paradox, a group decides to do something that no one in the group wants to do because everyone mistakenly assumes they’re the only ones who object to the idea and they don’t want to rock the boat by speaking up. Strange how much of our life is driven by...

Commentary and responsibility

Gossip ain’t good. We know it. We still gossip. Not just out of habit, rather because it makes us believe we are doing nothing wrong. It’s the other person that needs to change. This self validation is addictive especially since it doesn’t involve responsibility. If...