Saying no to someone is supremely hard.
We are hard wired to belong – to a tribe, a community, a group.
And in the past saying no meant isolation. Perhaps even death.
And while saying no nowadays mostly doesn't come with a death certificate, the habit has stayed.
If I say no – I will not belong. I will hurt the person. A negative image of mine will be created.
Here is a reminder
When you say no – you say no to the request, not to the person.
True grace is refusing someone in a way they don't feel rejected