What we do when no one is looking is who we are.
That is the person others will get to see when they are looking.
Nothing we do in public is random.
All of it is a result of what we do when we are alone.
If you are happy alone, the world sees you as a happy person.
If you are complaining when alone, that is what the world sees you for around them. There is nothing random or spontaneous.
As Tony Robbins says, ‘You get rewarded in public for what you do in private.’
The public is simply a reflection of the private.