Your colleague invites you to her wedding, by sending a personal email with the invitation card attached
Response 1:
Open the email
Read it
Reply back
“Thanks <insert colleague name>
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding. I am traveling and will unfortunately not be able to make it. Thanks for inviting me :)
Wishing you both a lovely wedding. All the best and God bless”
Response 2:
Open email
Open card
Read the details
Reply back
“Thanks <insert colleague name>
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding. I am unfortunately traveling on the 19th and will be unable to make it. Sorry about that and thanks for inviting me
Wish you and <insert bride’s name> a wonderful life ahead. All the best”
Time check
Response 2 > Response 1 by 10 seconds
Respect check
Response 2 > Response 1 by infinity
Respect doesn’t come from title. It comes from conduct.
Sorry Ankur, Couldn’t understand.
Apart from inserting the names, Response 1 and Response 2 are similar. I guess I am missing an important point. Can you elaborate.
Thanks in advance.
Ankur, what are you trying to say?
How are you defining respect here?
Email 1 and email 2 looks almost the same. It is just your perception that 1 is better than 2, right?
In either way, if you can’t make it to the wedding, what respect are you talking about? ;-)
@Rajat and @Abhishek J
As far as I could understand why response 2 earns more respect than response 1, is because
In response 2
1. You apologize for not being there in wedding, and
2. You take the time to notice the bride’s name from the invitation card and thus wish them by name, instead of the quick “Wish you both”.
You get my point? It takes about 10 more seconds to write response 2, but reflects that you have actually gone through the wedding card and really can’t make it to the wedding for a genuine reason.
@Abhishek J
Response 1, is cold, too generic.
Response 2, shows interest, that you spent some time, and actually considered the invitation for the wedding. And are not a douche!
@Rajat Is it always the outcome that matters?