We “choose” happiness

Our friends and family. Our colleagues. Our acquaintances on social media.  We love to keep everyone happy. If they aren’t happy, that’s because of us. I should not have said that. I am not balancing work and family. I am responsible for their sadness. Except,...

Hanging around people

“Not my type!” “Oh, this one is just like me!” “It would be difficult to hang around him.” The mind is constantly labelling people we meet.  However beneath the surface, there are no “types” of people. They are just being themselves.  What if instead of putting people...

Dealing with FOMO

Waking up early gives us energy. But my friends are out partying tonight and I do not want to miss the fun. Studying is important. But this new Netflix series everyone is talking about makes me feel I am missing out. I do not have the money. But everyone seems to love...

Toxicity

We are with friends. Yet we feel bad at the end of conversation. They care for us. Yet something doesn’t feel right. We are there for them in thick and thin. Yet we don’t see them happy when we are. Too often, we are surrounded by beautiful toxicity in the form of...

Getting comfortable with discomfort

Settle down in life. Or keep changing professions almost every 5-7 years. Do what everyone else does. Or do what feels right. GIve away your sleep for others. Or make it a top priority. Doing what is uncomfortable always feels uncomfortable at the start. Because what...

What if we didn’t have an ideal childhood

We don’t choose our parents. Nor can we choose how they conduct themselves as parents. Or the repercussions of it. But we do choose what to do to ourselves, once we are aware of what happened. We can either blame them for our lives. Or we can choose to heal ourselves....