Does what you’re doing feel shameful?

A kid is told “no” 400 times a day while growing up.   So as we morph into adults, that behavior gets reflected in everything that we do. It results in “no” being our default response to everything. This has never been done.Are you crazy?What’s going on in...

Is it okay to fire your friends?

Our energy gets drained. Enthusiasm lowers each time. There is no feeling of being cared for. These are the experiences we have with some of our friends.  However, we were not born into those relationships. We chose them. Since we chose them, we can also choose to get...

What’s more valuable than IQ and EQ?

More than two decades back, the society revered the ones with high IQ. Over time, it began giving higher importance to mastering our emotions, and understanding them in others. So EQ became the in-thing. However, there is a third important thing beyond both of these:...

Using the hurt to grow

How do we respond when we are hurt? Do we blame the person who did that to us? Or carry the baggage of that hurt forever? Here’s a simple question to ask: “What is this trying to tell me?”  We’d probably get nowhere getting to the root cause of hurt. However,...

How do we respond after making a mistake?

We’re entering the elevator from the 10th floor. Got to go to the 20th one. By mistake, we press the ground floor button. In the haste to correct that mistake, we instantly press that 20th floor button. Forgetting that the elevator will go to the ground floor first....