We are always understanding ourselves based on our thoughts. Thus, we are advocating for ourselves.

We are always understanding others based on their actions. Thus, we are judging of themselves.

It turns out, nothing matters if your actions don’t support it. Not for us. Not for others.
It is liberating, because now we may stop being too critical of them and

It is through what each one of us does, that creates who we are.
Everything else, is an illusion. Including what we think.