“Do you even know how I was treated?”
Perhaps very badly. That’s sad. Shouldn’t have happened.
However, if we attach what someone else did to how we feel, we are always placing others on a pedestal to make us happy.
That’s not vulnerable; that’s rather dangerous.
A more secure (but harder) way is to know who you are, learn from criticism (if constructive) and forgive them even if they don’t ask for it.
It isn’t a favour to them, it is a favour for our self worth.
People are who they are, it is up to us to be who we are.
If we truly focus on our journey, no criticism could ever shake us.