An alcoholic father had two sons.

One grew up to be an alcoholic. When asked why, he responded, “I watched my father.”

The other grew up hating alcohol. When asked how he chose to be sober, he responded, “I watched my father.”

So it wasn’t about what happened to them. It wasn’t about the circumstance. It wasn’t about the situation. 

It was about what they took from it.
It was about the stories they told themselves of what they went through. 

We are the stories we tell ourselves.