You felt intense pain.
You wanted to escape.
It really hurt. 

And in all that, it was easy to blame circumstances.
Except that circumstances were not to be blamed. 

If circumstances brought us pain, how is it that different people handle their pain differently? 

The hurt that we felt because of the circumstances was because the hurt was always there. Circumstances only brought them to the forefront. 

Circumstances don’t cause pain.
They reveal them.